Take the Charge but get discharged too...

WHY AM I VICTIMIZED????

WHY  DID  YOU  TAKE ME FOR GRANTED???

WHY THIS HAD TO HAPPEN WITH  ME???

These are  some  few self statements  people make often when they experience a distressed  situation.... Not that  anyone  so  far is spared  of any undesired experience  but well it  is a part of this  clay  self  we are living in and a role we play in this  drama called LIFE....

It is the easiest to POINT  A FINGER... right at our dispersal.... No much preparation  needed... Anything we face that is negative  we are spontaneous at blaming  people, place, fate but we seldom peep into self and something called as innate personality.....

People and pranks are static, only faces change  and situations  change, we get victimized  as we  fail to understand  why are we falling prey to it??? Sometimes... Or rather  many times it is not even intended  to attack us but we fall prey  to blind moves and this  is a very  typical  situation  where an inner world  of an individual  is  not strong  enough to handle  that.

It is easy  to  use terminologies  like SORTED  SELF.... but humans  can  try  to become  Zen, which they  can  after a serious  try  but EMOTIONAL  TURBULENCE is so dynamic  that IT'S  AN ONGOING  process to ACHIEVE  a ZEN state.... Well, these  are  possible for those who internalize , many of us who don't are almost devastated with a slight emotional  low...

So, when I  get  questions like what is a permanent  solution to feeling  high.... Actually its is a simple but Zen term...
ACCEPTANCE... and along with that TAKE CHARGE...

TAKING CHARGE IS...  Understanding  the way we are  wired to perceive  things based  on our different  factors... It is this work which  can make  a huge difference in management of self at that  moment  and future moments of any disturbances....

The process involves  these steps;

Focus on self as an object or goal...

Reconsider the emotional  perception of an event at initial stage  and your individual  state of mind  at that point...

The visions  or expectations  that was developed  due to that  initial  perception  has to be  questioned  and to be transformed into reality... This  stage is where  most  of us get stuck  and feel helpless  as MIND is a very stubborn  child in terms of Emotional  Intelligence and holds  itself  firm and not  change with changing  phases...
This acceptance  is a tedious  job but most important  contributing  factor  in self  growth..

Last  but not  the least.... Never feel that you will never  ever encounter something similar again as life can keep popping up with situation we hate the most till we learn to deal with it  nicely....

So... Do not crib but take charge to help yourself  and discharge  at times from everything to find your true inner self... As ultimate  healing is self dealing..... As a smooth  process...

Love and live
Take the charge and  smiles to give....

Soul wish....

Soul wish....

My soul has an infant  dream
A foolish yet a secret wish,
Living like a restless  being
Like breathing  without water some fish.

Some with looks, some with  wit
Nothing helped my inner self lit,
I  do not know if my other part
Is restless too on being apart...

My unexplored  paradise within
No one has its magic seen,
It is waiting  for its charming  prince
Peacefully  on his shoulders  to lean.

Many travelled till the door
As if glancing standing at shore,
No one could dare to drown in that sea
For pure a soul  can only drown within....

My means to merge deep
To gain  a spiritual  high,
A journey  from sole to soul
I  want to feel complete and whole.

Divinity is everywhere..... (cultivate the vision to view it, feel it)

Dear Readers,

Today, it was a major internal debate when I  struggled through the process of understanding the path to divinity... I come across  many enlightened  youngsters who have gained quite some self realizations and have strengthened themselves to stand by their decision which aren't  supported by society... Like not getting married or staying in live in relationships for purely  physical  and emotional  needs without a life long commitment  or tying knot but not in the need to procreate.... These people are worth the applaud as they have got the courage to take the stand to their conviction.

I belong to liberal  thoughts and  I seldom judge these young hearts, it takes  courage  to stick to the wants based on each individual  personality. It shows that these people  are clear  about themselves and are peak in awareness  which is a task  many  people don't  even know of and die after living like machines..

Most of these people who take tough stands have an excellent  SPIRITUAL QUOTIENT  and that  is  significant to their divine growth. It surprises me at times when I  wonder, I  was no naive  at that age but nevertheless, I  like my slow  baby steps  towards my SPIRITUAL  life.

The diversities that raise conflicts  are into the path people choose to follow in this journey. I  am probably heading  from a background where humans were given utmost  importance  not for their so called caste, creed, religion  or  communities  but they being humans... I  connect to people very quickly  and its  a pleasure  I experience in meeting  different  people as each has something to contribute in my growth. The sad element  which I personally  experience  in meeting  these people with bubbling energy is that they are in their own way living  in a bubble. It is amazing  to live in a self formed bubble until it gets badly pricked by external  environment.  The generation that is so  vibrant, so intelligent  and dynamic is getting  wasted  only because of their low tolerance  levels and denial issues.

The confidence which made them think  practically and  stand by their  thoughts slowly turned  them into arrogant  ones who can condemn the wrongs  around  but wouldn't  contribute  towards making it right...

Its again a universal  law where if dislike and intolerance of realities around aren't accepted in the right spirit, it might never  let you feel happy  in the space given  to  you.

It works something  like this, after deep Introspection  when life in its totality should be well understood  to reach an acceptance  level of why things operate the way they do. It is never a one man job to bring about a universal  change but it definitely  can give  a kick start  to  help others join in if we  wish to bring about a positive  change in the  society. To start  micro level work to see difference at macro level, it is very important  that we as individuals do not even start  priding over spiritual quotient  we have acquired as that itself is a big hindrance to further growth....

Its  similarities that need  to be considered  to start loving everyone and not the differences in even mindsets which can only distance us from humanity... This distance is an obstacle to the divine... Think about it....

Spiritual Love...

Spirit... The very reason , I  am able to write this blog, the very reason  you can read this article and for all the  reasons to reason out...

I was  wondering if all of us can feel things to the core and if we do know what can those feelings do???? Spirit which is the root to our existence  is governed by the experiences it goes through and is constantly  striving  to make we humans acquire  that ultimate  truth that we are indeed SPIRITUAL  BEINGS WHO ARE HERE TO HAVE HUMAN EXPERIENCE...

While  experiencing  human birth, we experience love as a prime ingredient to take us to  that understanding where no one is different  from  other.. We are all connected to each other via an invisible  thread to which we have our own formed similarities and attachments... Some in particular  gets  attached  to  help us in bringing  about a deeper spiritual awareness  and that person , that  individual  becomes the spiritual love of ones life...

Its easy to give names to relationships people form, its a binding to follow  rules and  regulations to those societal  relationships  but those nameless  ties people get involved  in are  those which occur to humans in an unexpected  way, with unexpected people and its weird in every way  but seems most deep... It is these connections which can leave a deep impact on ones life and help in understanding the universal love which is  the core truth.

In my professional  practice, I  get many couples who are quite  possessive  about each other, people try  being who they are not , not to bring about a change which they want but for proving their worthiness to their partners.... Change is life.. If change is natural, its spiritual  but if its imposed and feared, its a caged love, its a caged relationship....  We are here into close knit relationships  to help each other lift up spiritually  but dominance  in any relationship  will only cause chaos which will give birth to rebellious  souls at a later stage...

We, as humans  are strict followers of scriptures and religious beliefs  but we do not realize the underlying  intentions  of all these... None of it teaches to hold people into handcuffs and slave them  as per rules and regulations  and norms... In Fact, these were formed for a systematic  way of  living  under ready acceptance  of people around thus, the ACCEPTANCE  as a fact is killed somewhere and every act humans do is services  towards ego satisfaction in society .... Where is the self acceptance  and pleasure  at a core level vanished?????

Love, is the prime ingredient of any relationship and love by itself is a free spirit... It cannot be caged, imposed or destroyed... It is eternal  in its way, it cannot have a method , it is free willed... But we seldom have faith in that... Because we lack faith in ourselves... If its love, it has to there, forms might change, feel cannot.

I, try  telling  people, if you love  someone  so  deeply, so intensely, don't  hold them into your clutches... They would  feel suffocated... Rather, love them  let them love you the way you are  and if you have experienced  spirituality  with this love, it is immaterial  whether they fall in love with someone  else as, they WILL WITNESS YOUR PRESENCE even if they  are with other  people.... This is the purity, strength and magic of spiritual  love....

Its difficult  to love someone in a  manner, to let them go somewhere else, but its a beautiful  feeling  to let your love find love and finally feel YOU wherever they go... That's  Love....

It requires  a deep connect with self and an extreme  level of spiritual quotient  to fall in love like that....

Love yourself to love all....

Should GIRLS touch BOYS without permission...?????

This post is dedicated to my son , who popped up this question  yesterday  while discussing  his school  matters....

Although, me at this stage is a complete  non believer  of gender differences  at a macro level but kids too who start of as civilized  people by learning  the basic  differences in genders and later the do s and don't s of the behavioral  patterns with other gender.... End up in confusion..

Society is so complexed in nature... When a baby is  conceived, its a life that  will be surfacing the earth but as science progressed to keep a check on health of the baby in womb , sex detection and discrimination  emerged with equal force. From a human  life, we divided that into differences via genders, colour, race, etc but major  being two broad categories... Male and Female...

As kids, we are unaware of these differences and are most sorted; but  as we become conscious  we either  get into a shell or become over  inquisitive to learn about the other gender....

Its natural to have an attraction towards the opposite gender with growing  age and needs but as a general norm of society  when cultures  put a  restriction  on behaviors amongst genders why isn't a uniformity maintained  and if not there shouldn't  be a stigma as well.

TOUCH... to me is always more prominently, a mental  or emotional impact an individual  can have on me but many others  are expressive  in physical  terms  or  are just too indiscriminately  following  an approach of equality....

With growing  crime and growing  mental manipulation  even a friendly touch especially  from a male to a female can call for  a legal  action and melodrama.... It is  a win win situation  in the case of girls who also can completely  rub their bodies against  boys, pretend an accidental fall over them, faint in their arms  and seduce them by all indirect methods  and yet remain a POOR GIRL... who  was inappropriately  touched by a boy.... OMG!  How can a boy behave that way????

Well, I  have met so many  young adults who couldn't  get out of a relationship only because they were physical with their girlfriends who really initiated  the moves and later, were there ready with  allegations  that 'He USED me...'...
Well, well, folks, lets understand  this very clearly... Both  girls and boys equally  need one another's  touch  (mental and physical)  but living by pseudo  norms of society  where boys are condemned to touch girls and girls can roll over them completely without  guilt is UNFAIR....

Boys  might have more physical tendencies  which definitely doesn't  mean they don't  have a preference or choice... Not that they  enjoy all girls flirting with them, they  might just have a little lesser physical  control  on being seduced... Thus... It is very natural to seek one another but as norms it should be more clearly  explained to both  boys and girls to not BOTHER  any individual (boy or girl)  either mentally or physically  and  if one is given the permission to abuse or exploit the other, both should be given equal rights to self defend ...

As parents, girls should be also trained to respect boys which today under the vogue of FEMINISM  is absolutely  taken  undue advantage of and they shouldn't manipulate  boys into any non consensual physical  act and if its consensual  it should  be taken  complete personal responsibility  there of...

Thank you...

So do you have a humorous element????

I  can LAUGH all my life on jokes sick jokes as well as intellectual ones... I  am sure  many  of us wouldn't mind that....

I tried to figure out that why people eventually  only crave company of those who can make them laugh...

Laughing  makes us feel rejuvenated instantly and that  actually helps us get back to face serious life challenges with  more zest. I  truly  love and adore those with that streak who can lighten the environment by their witty  humor and  jokes...

Every  moment in life we can either choose to pick a humorous  side of a situation or a serious side... People who have a personality  to portray themselves as very sensible, intelligent  usually do not appreciate and entertain  jokes as they feel its murdering  the productive serious  moments but the truth is to attain seriousness we are self sufficient... All we need is our thoughts and associated worry... There appears  a very very serious  moment... But to get happier and feel lighter we need someone who can skillfully and at times unintentionally help getting  us out from that zone...

Jokes are also highly  depended on the  thinking ability of the  person, intellectual  capacity, etc thus  here it is like walking  on a tight  rope if the receivers aren't at par with the humour pouring minds ...

In nutshell, not only females  like guys who can make them laugh  as in INDIAN  scenario females are expected to not laugh  loudly too.. Thus secretly they admire guys who can help them in bringing out that naughty element out from them.... But all individuals  prefer  staying in company of those with a humorous element...

I, never fulfilled the requirements of an ideal Indian Girl, and lived by my attitude (as much as I  could;)  thus I would chill around with people who  could make me laugh  my heart out and my mom surely objected that to which  I  still have a  non convincing  approach... But as I  started to speak up light heartedly around, I  realised  people in general  love to feel lighter and not end up feeling  burdened with  environmental  stress....

Its, therefore  a strong personality  trait to have a sense of humor , which shouldn't  be judged otherwise  by labeling such people as devoid of feelings and seriousness, in fact these people have an entire different side to them which is very intense, compassionate  and sensitive...

Thus... Its not essential to make every issue a matter of life and death .. Lets laugh at routine issues, its  OKAY to  laugh at our problems... It surely doesn't eliminate the problem area but will help HEALTH being a little  less affected in the process...

Its a free tonic, a free mood uplifting  pill.. To laugh it out and CHILL...

Take care

Why we need permanence???

CONFUSION  or DISSATISFACTION  are another names for human beings....
Whether we agree or not, we as Humans work our whole life through in having a stable life and eventually look out for changes to spice up the stable life....

I would as usual  prefer quoting  self to others as it irritates  me soo many times to  crave for things not essential  or needed as there has to be something we need to continuously look for.... Since last few years though, I  know what is it I am  looking at as I   do realize with  my so called introspective  technique that only  thing that  I  seek which is permanent  but not is SOUL within....

There are so many life  challenges and distractions that  often don't  let me stay focussed... I  remember  my school days too when I  very faintly tried my hand at spirituality  but with onset of adolescence  and societal  needs there was a need to settle down which makes many or most of us enter into marital bond... This isn't an end too, now to grow further at societal level all married couples  do seek children and want to enjoy the status of parenthood  which surely  lifts up many souls in terms of understanding and compassion... But again, there is still  a long way to go.... We all need to prove perfect  parents to our kids, perfect  spouses to our partners and perfect  children to our parents.... Most importantly "PERFECT INDIVIDUAL"  in  societal  context and the marathon  goes on and on....

In an urge to acquire a permanent  status of PERFECT LIFE AND PERFECT INDIVIDUAL  we bring about crazy  changes  in our life and say magically  if many who  are successful in acquiring that  said status... After flaunting and relishing the pleasure of societal  applause , we suddenly  somewhere start getting impulsive and anxious  as the  are monotony of that lifestyle they adopted  ONLY for others seems suffocating ...

Thus, the search begins again to look for a change that keeps people motivated to live in that permanent  life they made and chose for themselves....

I am nobody to comment  or judge  the society and its rule but in this rat race of permanence in life we have forgotten that this  very life is temporary and its purpose is towards uplifting that permanent  soul  which also is looking for an universal permanent  destination to merge within  and release  its caging life after life....

Its a devastating  feeling to those who know the realities of this material race and accumulation to be a part of this stage and act out the given roles with utmost conviction to go backstage  and embrace the costume less , original  self to derive PERMANENT  PEACE....