Toxic Relationships....!!! (Take a call)

I am wondering, how did I take so long to write something on toxic relationships... When now I open my mental eyes to witness so many I have pulled on for such a long span of time....

I have this weird habit of giving huge benefit of doubts to almost all the people I know, the end result was not bad when my personal growth was concerned, it did reflect a lot of things I needed to change in myself but somewhere in personal front when my close few were concerned some being relatives and some very close friends I was still emotionally getting harmed.... I did blame and worked consistently on my EQ(Emotional Intelligence) levels to bring about a peaceful state within but still something was a miss.

It was then when this insightful thought came up and I realized that I was completely unaware that I was holding on to TOXIC relationships with way too many people.

Like there's this relative of mine who herself has a very very low self image but will not hesitate to put me down when I myself sportingly can crack a joke on self... Similar is a so called VERY GOOD friend who will only and mostly indulge into conversations when she puts down other people criticize or condemn their actions and simply NAG, again an inevitable lady who can only self pity.... Surrounded by people like these, even if there's nothing sad happening in my life, I would be subconsciously pulled into their negative stride..

Such characters are there everywhere, but because of those cultural values instilled in me to keep up good relations with all I was taking in all the toxins. It is a threshold in life where one has to decide if we can overlook such negative people and yet move on with them or if our personalities cannot walk through them we need to leave them at one point.. It will take me a 360 degree turn in my personality to turn off from such people, it is now more a medication for my mental health whether it is a perceived as arrogance or attitude or aloofness.....

One another such relationship that I held on was a childhood friend and I should have taken a hint from the very approach that if its giving me a feel of worthlessness why on earth would any such person be important to me???? It is often a self created mental injury where you go with a platter of Emotional weapons and invite them to assault you with their silent violence.....

Its all about taking a responsibility of self... NO ONE EXCEPT WE ARE ENTITLED TO SELF CARE.. Its waste blaming people and circumstances, its time to MAKE A CHOICE.... with an EQ so poor, for people like me it takes their whole life to take stand but  BETTER LATE THAN NEVER, whatever few years we have to live, lets not live in regret that you didn't take care of your self dignity.... I still don't have ego to accept that few people are close to my heart but I need to give myself the due respect rather than expecting it from those who would only walk over calmly into their comfort zones...
Either ways, being easy is not to allow people to TAKE YOU FOR A RIDE, its about EASILY side tracking too all those who cause us discomfort....

Take care...

STOP being that TEACHER.....

A school going kid or an ailing old man
Self proclaimed wise, a human creature
Ready to guide, lead and be a preacher
We seldom have learnt yet aspire to be THAT Teacher... 樂樂

Advises are for free, in fact it is the only thing given generously and abundantly to whoever and wherever... I am saying this when my profession is to only COUNSEL but yet this is the core truth we all need to accept.. I can only pass on my academic and experienced knowledge to people approaching me but no one has gained that supreme power to be a life guide to anyone... A simple fact being HUMANS are born out of HUMANS, A formation of cells but yet a DIVINE creation which cannot be captured into books and scriptures.

From the time we begin to read and write and in case of illiteracy, a growth in age, we assume that we have that special ability to teach others.

Teaching worldly matters is bookish knowledge which is learnt after gaining prescribed qualifications from man made universities and there's this tag of a TEACHER given... It is a Noble deed to teach children but NO ONE can possibly take the charge to teaching people LIFE LESSONS as these are those which each individual learns in their different ways.. Life lessons aren't same as virtues and morals and ethics... These too are transferable.... Life Lessons are those special things learnt via life events.

Its amusing to see those specially who are carrying immense weight of their self generated EGO s and SUPREMACY who take up this charge to teach people lessons... These unfortunate people take rejection and apologies way too seriously and march towards becoming a life teacher to someone to merely live peacefully in their self created bubble. If there would have been a vision to see things beyond, no one individual will try overpowering other come what may...

Its now hilarious to see people exploiting someone merely to feel a high to having made them learn something crucial... In fact, its a foolish act to feel high over fellow humans who have created disrespect towards that bubble owner and these so called learned, wealthy or high profile Someones are deteriorating in their own self image.

The practical examples of such dumb heads are destruction of something or someone physically, mentally, emotionally to win over that conflict or difference...
Acid users for rejection of an individual proposal...
Physical, sexual benefits for someone in need of job or favor
Monetary or financial exploitation in exchange of an apology or helplessness
Etc
etc

Practically, every one is trying to teach someone else that if he or she is good at exploitation, they are supreme and they better be respected... This is like Robbing Respect which is most difficult to earn but each one wants to SNATCH IT, FORCEFULLY ACHIEVE IT.... The foolish human kind, in the race to capture that RESPECT from fellow human beings are more and more indulged into inhuman acts to ONLY gain DISRESPECT....

In nutshell, we shouldn't condemn ADOLF HITLER, for he had the insanity to openly go brutal to gain the superficial GODLY power, we are even worse, under the skin of nobility, we are on a constant run to teach LIFE LESSONS to all those who are against our belief systems in most cruel ways that can literally make people stop believing in HUMANITY on the whole...

God bless these LIFE PREACHERS and save victimized students of such TEACHERS....

LET'S NOT TAKE THE CHARGE OF TEACHING OTHERS, IF WE CAN POSSIBLY LEARN SOMETHING FOR SELF, IT WILL BE MORE THAN SUFFICIENT.....

Explosion of exploitation!!!

SELF PROCLAIMED INTELLECTUAL, SELF PROCLAIMED SUPER HEROES AND SELF PROCLAIMED SPIRITUAL GURUS...

Its a explosion of Fake and superficial dramas all around.. Be it intelligence, be it relationships, be it emotions... All around there is this very weird ACCEPTANCE rush.. In fact its not even Acceptance, it is the rush to stand above  others...

Everywhere I turn my face, I see people exploiting someone for their selfish motives, very rarely I find people with mutual love and care where EMOTIONS play genuine role... Each one desires to make it big in life not to HELP others but to EXPLOIT others to merely feel powerful...

Girls have started exploiting their sexuality not for SELF SATISFACTION but for luring MEN and to get their material benefits ... Such sexual exploration isn't LIBERATION, it is sheer misuse of that Vagina and  Breasts....

Men, on the other hand are wrongly motivated in such cases with the myth that all around girls are there to be exploited if they are ambitious or not... Strategies differ as per the role she holds but basic mindset remains same...

Being powerful is a boon which is seldom used for human welfare, it is justified if misused for self pleasures and bodily pleasures even if it means to degrade another human being for the same.

It is heart breaking to learn that people put in tremendous hard-work​, energies, etc to get a position in life ONLY to sleep with anyone and everyone and considering this as a LIFE ACHIEVEMENT....

Sexual Liberation is an entirely different thing where two people  have consensual make out whether it is love or attraction but throwing weight of power and position, in exchange of any benefit if someone is made to give in Sexually or manually it is a filthy mindset and these can probably never get out of the self designed fictional pit where glamour is the essence and the reason which has blind folded them...

There's actually no SUPERIORITY complex existing​, it is INFERIORITY which with many personalities comes out as SUPERIORITY... If these nutcases are hypnotized, one can gather the level of low self worth these people actually have...

Anybody, who knows their self worth will never try proving it to others in any manner, the ones who need to are the ones who desperately need people to approve of them.. They are the ones who don't have an inner voice, depth and are mesmerized by the  power shower by similar kind of souls.

Academic excellence and high public profile has nothing to do with personal humanity laws which unfortunately are neither taught nor learnt.. Only people with immense SENSITIVITY FOR OTHERS can incorporate them into their personal lives... Which means...
INTEGRITY NEVER GOES OUT OF VOGUE....

People living in self created bubbles should get back to reality check and stop generalizing....

FINANCIAL levels cannot be defined as power imposing element
Liberation does not mean Exploitation of those who have Independent thoughts and
Life is more beyond SEX and MONEY....

Thank You