Take the Charge but get discharged too...

WHY AM I VICTIMIZED????

WHY  DID  YOU  TAKE ME FOR GRANTED???

WHY THIS HAD TO HAPPEN WITH  ME???

These are  some  few self statements  people make often when they experience a distressed  situation.... Not that  anyone  so  far is spared  of any undesired experience  but well it  is a part of this  clay  self  we are living in and a role we play in this  drama called LIFE....

It is the easiest to POINT  A FINGER... right at our dispersal.... No much preparation  needed... Anything we face that is negative  we are spontaneous at blaming  people, place, fate but we seldom peep into self and something called as innate personality.....

People and pranks are static, only faces change  and situations  change, we get victimized  as we  fail to understand  why are we falling prey to it??? Sometimes... Or rather  many times it is not even intended  to attack us but we fall prey  to blind moves and this  is a very  typical  situation  where an inner world  of an individual  is  not strong  enough to handle  that.

It is easy  to  use terminologies  like SORTED  SELF.... but humans  can  try  to become  Zen, which they  can  after a serious  try  but EMOTIONAL  TURBULENCE is so dynamic  that IT'S  AN ONGOING  process to ACHIEVE  a ZEN state.... Well, these  are  possible for those who internalize , many of us who don't are almost devastated with a slight emotional  low...

So, when I  get  questions like what is a permanent  solution to feeling  high.... Actually its is a simple but Zen term...
ACCEPTANCE... and along with that TAKE CHARGE...

TAKING CHARGE IS...  Understanding  the way we are  wired to perceive  things based  on our different  factors... It is this work which  can make  a huge difference in management of self at that  moment  and future moments of any disturbances....

The process involves  these steps;

Focus on self as an object or goal...

Reconsider the emotional  perception of an event at initial stage  and your individual  state of mind  at that point...

The visions  or expectations  that was developed  due to that  initial  perception  has to be  questioned  and to be transformed into reality... This  stage is where  most  of us get stuck  and feel helpless  as MIND is a very stubborn  child in terms of Emotional  Intelligence and holds  itself  firm and not  change with changing  phases...
This acceptance  is a tedious  job but most important  contributing  factor  in self  growth..

Last  but not  the least.... Never feel that you will never  ever encounter something similar again as life can keep popping up with situation we hate the most till we learn to deal with it  nicely....

So... Do not crib but take charge to help yourself  and discharge  at times from everything to find your true inner self... As ultimate  healing is self dealing..... As a smooth  process...

Love and live
Take the charge and  smiles to give....