Flawless is like fairy tale!!!!!

Flaw????  "Nah, I  don't  have any..... "
Well , how many of us have gracefully  accepted  this....  Let's  not talk about how  bad or harmful is that  flaw, the  truth remains  that  each one  of us has one quality that is NOT GOOD....

This being a fact, the human race using their inborn  abilities  to think and argue is excellent at covering  up and the result  being we all end up living in a superficial  world  created by us.....

There is this fearful and coward self of ours that  believes in dressing up our  flaws so as to remain protected from attackers who would misuse this against  us and benefitting  themselves.... Well, to this endless effort  of covering  up said flaws  are a major  WASTE as no one has ever been successful  in keeping up that  perfect  image intact lifetime..... To  give a serious  example  is none other than all those great  men who  have selflessly  worked towards a social goal too are ripped off  when their single flaw is surfaced LATER......

Having  said this, will  it not be better to self judge and accept  all those negative  traits so as to have  an enough awareness  to work towards its improvisation....

This was pertaining  to self, let's  talk  of family  and close  friends..... "oops.... Never..... My family  is seldom  wrong or is naturally  the best ever...."
Its great to have high regards but most of us get blindly attached to it and end  up living  a life  in denial  mode..... In an effort  to safeguard  our people  from  others  judgemental  views we too get into a superficial  image of those near and dear ones and spend  our entire life  in covering our  family  and friends  as we clearly  ASSOCIATE THEIR FLAWS being  a black mark on SELF..... Thus, it is no act of greatness to keep up an perfect  made up  image  of people associated  with us, it is in the  end  all a very SELFISH ACT, as acceptance  of family  and friends  flaw would hamper self image too and thus  the whole  effort  in saving that  IMAGE.....

I come across  every second  individual  who is on high alert to act defensive  in self presentation and many have died  in those  notions that we (me and my family  is  GOD  s best creation) ... Well,  let's  see a broader perspective .... The very fact that  one would  want  to defend  either self, family , friends  or community, religion, country, etc means  that rather  than  working  towards self improvisation, we are more  keen and  using all our resources  in proving ourselves  Best....

To end this controversial  topic, none of us are Perfect,  Flaw is Fact...... Therefore, acceptance  can only  serve as a stepping  stone  towards  betterment  and DEFENSIVE attitude can only  deteriorate  us further....

Choice is ours.....

Suicide vs Samadhi....

Suicide  commonly  heard  of.....
Samadhi referred as an ancient  act of highly  enlightened  people....

A question  arising  out of my  thinking  process, why was samadhi considered  highly respectable  where as suicide highly  condemned....???
Where as both acts bring about  an end to life.....

The little  knowledge  that I  have so far gave me an understanding  of the  two acts and their acceptability  or  otherwise  as,

Suicide  is an act which emerges out of a highly  dissatisfied  soul, someone who is not  able to cope  up  with   rejections  and  dejection  that life  events put them into.. These people are under the influence  of self hatred and hatred towards the life  creation and are in an urge to put an end to it all thus they take up the drastic  step of  exiting from life to teach people around  a lesson of life....
Therefore, SUICIDE  IS AN ACT OF ESCAPISM AND ABSOLUTE WEAKNESS OF MIND that  arises out of  acute  depression.....
The ironical  part here is  that one who  does  not understand  Life is set to teach others a lesson of life  by ending their own.....

On the other hand Samadhi, which too was bringing  about an end to life by many saints and holy  men was meant as RETURN TO THE ORIGIN... return to origin  essentially  meant that  merging with the nature or where  we belong.... The most  important  and prominent  difference  here is that these souls decide  to adopt samadhi as they  have achieved  supreme level  of  satisfaction  from life.... SAMADHI IS  TAKEN UP BY THOSE WHO HAVE REACHED THE  HIGHEST LEVEL OF  SATISFACTION AND ARE FULLY CONTENT.....
These people who have been  said to taken samadhi as a means to exit from life have initially  while  alive reached a mental state  of samadhi and thereby felt it was no point in physical  life....

A different  perspective  to it can be once an individual  has reached a point  of absolute  stillness would not  wish  to carry on with any act to survive physically  so as to get them away  from the state of stillness....

As a mental health  professional, I  have some conflicting  views on Samadhi in current situation ;as Mind  is the most  complexed thing  which has very little  clarity about most of the universal  facts and is a victim of almost all physical  agonies .... Therefore  under the  superficial  feeling  where a depressed mind  would claim to have fulfilled life duties and thus enter samadhi is a little  hard to believe...

Meditation  and the eighth stage  of yoga which takes the mind to the absolute  balanced  state is indeed an art to  practice.... A state of stillness where  the body  is only performing its routine  acts where mind  is totally unaffected is what is the  state of samadhi one should strive to  achieve.... This stage is the highest  level of spiritual  intelligence  which can tune an individual  to not get disgusted of physical  life and neither  get involved in any physical  pleasure.... Infact, it is a state of happiness  that is felt  under any given  condition.....

Having  said that  keeping  up with life  could very much also result  in physical  ailments  that can result  in acute pain and bodily suffering  and if an individual  can maintain  mental stillness  then, it is in true sense an achiever of Samadhi  at spiritual  level... As atma samarpan should not involve bodily negligence  as it wasn't  an individual choice  to take birth so should death not be a given choice either???
This life is a learning experience of soul  at all levels which also includes stages  of suffering  towards the death....

If life has nothing  to contribute  towards  society  then perhaps  it has something  to teach  the soul within  and thus is the  unique  life given to each of  us in our own personalized  gift  wraps which we find surprisingly  good  and bad at different  times ....

Take care....

Compete and compare..... Enter the greed breed...

Compete??? *
For??????

A particular  school  of thought  says competition  is healthy.... Indeed.. But there  are given conditions  under which they  are healthy..
Like....
Discovery  of the  best  of one's  abilities
Eliminating  the laziness within
And an urge to build up self confidence...

Apart from these, there is no individual  benefit  to be competitive.... On the other hand if the above  mentioned  goals  are achieved ... Then competition  should be with  ONLY SELF....
But.. Sadly... We humans forget the essence  of competition  and  soon cross that  thin line of competition  and encounter  COMPARISON... this is the zone people should never ever enter....

The killer of humanity, downfall of virtues  and  inviting  restlessness  are all this area can give us.....
Comparison , therefore  is like self  inflicted  torture  and life long  companionship  with anxiety..

I  see people  coming  to  me with  major issues  and when it's  cause is boiled  down, it reflects  that it was an unsaid comparing  trait which  plays  the  culprit.

Again  the sad part here is people are seldom interested  in comparing  themselves  to enlightened  people or humble  and modest population  who have  gained  immensely  but are grounded from the core... The reason being that  doesn't  give others a JEALOUSY  FEEL and  the mediocre  self  of humans  only race the ones who  are in possession  of all sorts  of material  things to gain that  extra attention....

Having  said so it is  easier  to gain  material  happiness  if not by hardwork and integrity  then by cheating  and immorality  thus all are engrossed in that competition  followed  by comparison  to achieve that mind-blowing  high ranking position in society  with all eyes following  them and  that is the goal people have set...

Whereas to achieve  the eternal happiness  it involves  high amount of self study, introspective  attitude and competition  with self at a constant  pace which is not attention  gaining  and people don't  feel its worth till..... All that  comparisons put them into a never ending  state  of Anxiety  and  depression......

Folks, it is therefore  very important  to cautiously  compete and not let go off our peace within as it is not sensible  to gain attention  while loosing  inner harmony....

Most  people  who are unfortunate  victims of this  competition  followed  by comparison  are those who start having a high self image where  by they cannot tolerate  anyone  else doing better than  them in all feilds ...

I know of  college toppers, millionaires and most  affluent  people being victimized  by the disease of COMPARISON  as they seek to achieve a perfect picturized life and cannot come in terms with what  life has to give them in their  journey....

Self help tip:

A simple and spiritual  way  to help  overcome  any distress caused by life events and dissatisfied  feeling  is to understand  as to how any episode  of life has contributed  in enrichment  of the soul within... Which means how refined have you become  with a blow is something  to be cherished  rather  than cribbing.....

Stay calm...