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Tuesday, August 9, 2016

Should GIRLS touch BOYS without permission...?????

This post is dedicated to my son , who popped up this question  yesterday  while discussing  his school  matters....
Although, me at this stage is a complete  non believer  of gender differences  at a macro level but kids too who start of as civilized  people by learning  the basic  differences in genders and later the do s and don't s of the behavioral  patterns with other gender.... End up in confusion..
Society is so complexed in nature... When a baby is  conceived, its a life that  will be surfacing the earth but as science progressed to keep a check on health of the baby in womb , sex detection and discrimination  emerged with equal force. From a human  life, we divided that into differences via genders, colour, race, etc but major  being two broad categories... Male and Female...
As kids, we are unaware of these differences and are most sorted; but  as we become conscious  we either  get into a shell or become over  inquisitive to learn about the other gender....
Its natural to have an attraction towards the opposite gender with growing  age and needs but as a general norm of society  when cultures  put a  restriction  on behaviors amongst genders why isn't a uniformity maintained  and if not there shouldn't  be a stigma as well.
TOUCH... to me is always more prominently, a mental  or emotional impact an individual  can have on me but many others  are expressive  in physical  terms  or  are just too indiscriminately  following  an approach of equality....
With growing  crime and growing  mental manipulation  even a friendly touch especially  from a male to a female can call for  a legal  action and melodrama.... It is  a win win situation  in the case of girls who also can completely  rub their bodies against  boys, pretend an accidental fall over them, faint in their arms  and seduce them by all indirect methods  and yet remain a POOR GIRL... who  was inappropriately  touched by a boy.... OMG!  How can a boy behave that way????
Well, I  have met so many  young adults who couldn't  get out of a relationship only because they were physical with their girlfriends who really initiated  the moves and later, were there ready with  allegations  that 'He USED me...'...
Well, well, folks, lets understand  this very clearly... Both  girls and boys equally  need one another's  touch  (mental and physical)  but living by pseudo  norms of society  where boys are condemned to touch girls and girls can roll over them completely without  guilt is UNFAIR....
Boys  might have more physical tendencies  which definitely doesn't  mean they don't  have a preference or choice... Not that they  enjoy all girls flirting with them, they  might just have a little lesser physical  control  on being seduced... Thus... It is very natural to seek one another but as norms it should be more clearly  explained to both  boys and girls to not BOTHER  any individual (boy or girl)  either mentally or physically  and  if one is given the permission to abuse or exploit the other, both should be given equal rights to self defend ...
As parents, girls should be also trained to respect boys which today under the vogue of FEMINISM  is absolutely  taken  undue advantage of and they shouldn't manipulate  boys into any non consensual physical  act and if its consensual  it should  be taken  complete personal responsibility  there of...
Thank you...