So do you have a humorous element????

I  can LAUGH all my life on jokes sick jokes as well as intellectual ones... I  am sure  many  of us wouldn't mind that....

I tried to figure out that why people eventually  only crave company of those who can make them laugh...

Laughing  makes us feel rejuvenated instantly and that  actually helps us get back to face serious life challenges with  more zest. I  truly  love and adore those with that streak who can lighten the environment by their witty  humor and  jokes...

Every  moment in life we can either choose to pick a humorous  side of a situation or a serious side... People who have a personality  to portray themselves as very sensible, intelligent  usually do not appreciate and entertain  jokes as they feel its murdering  the productive serious  moments but the truth is to attain seriousness we are self sufficient... All we need is our thoughts and associated worry... There appears  a very very serious  moment... But to get happier and feel lighter we need someone who can skillfully and at times unintentionally help getting  us out from that zone...

Jokes are also highly  depended on the  thinking ability of the  person, intellectual  capacity, etc thus  here it is like walking  on a tight  rope if the receivers aren't at par with the humour pouring minds ...

In nutshell, not only females  like guys who can make them laugh  as in INDIAN  scenario females are expected to not laugh  loudly too.. Thus secretly they admire guys who can help them in bringing out that naughty element out from them.... But all individuals  prefer  staying in company of those with a humorous element...

I, never fulfilled the requirements of an ideal Indian Girl, and lived by my attitude (as much as I  could;)  thus I would chill around with people who  could make me laugh  my heart out and my mom surely objected that to which  I  still have a  non convincing  approach... But as I  started to speak up light heartedly around, I  realised  people in general  love to feel lighter and not end up feeling  burdened with  environmental  stress....

Its, therefore  a strong personality  trait to have a sense of humor , which shouldn't  be judged otherwise  by labeling such people as devoid of feelings and seriousness, in fact these people have an entire different side to them which is very intense, compassionate  and sensitive...

Thus... Its not essential to make every issue a matter of life and death .. Lets laugh at routine issues, its  OKAY to  laugh at our problems... It surely doesn't eliminate the problem area but will help HEALTH being a little  less affected in the process...

Its a free tonic, a free mood uplifting  pill.. To laugh it out and CHILL...

Take care

Effective Communication with High EQ

Communication ...considered and believed to either create problems or end problems. ..

Where does your pattern belong???are you able to bring about solutions or create confusions by speaking? ????

The truth hidden behind your pattern is your EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE or EMOTIONAL QUOTIENT (EI or EQ)

Unlike IQ ..which is God gifted..EQ is mouldable...which means we can develop EQ as high as we want....
The fact which was established that all those who are full of life and highly successful are a combination of 80% EQ and 20% IQ...This reflects the importance of EQ in our lives.

Basically a high EQ is helpful in following ways:
Understanding Our own emotions
Understanding others emotions
Management of our emotions
Management of our relationship with others.

All these create an individual's life the way they are existing. ..There is communication which is directly influenced by our emotions. ..not necessarily only verbal even non verbal communication which is often not in control speaks even louder than words! !!

So how do we communicate effectively to express honest emotions without offending others is a crucial art each one must develop.

Few steps to communicate well with emotional quotient :

1. Understand self emotions(feeling sad, happy,jealous, guilty,angry ,etc)

2. Put yourself into others shoes and try to perceive their possible emotions. ...

3. Manage self emotions (like if feeling angry. .try to first calm down after realisation of anger...)

4. Rehearse or plan to express your actual emotion in a very assertive manner and then actually speak up without fumbling or getting anxious or aggressive. ..(e.g. to express a dislike in behavior to someone you  say, "I understand that you have your reasons too but the way you behaved was offending and I am pretty much hurt. ")
This part is very important and  delicate ..if not delivered well can ruin things further. ..

This requires continuous practice and is an essential part to lead easy life...

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EGO....End of GrOwth......

EGO -as a psychological concept balances the mind and its anti social activities that is demanded by the subconscious ....
In world today EGO has been replaced by the set boundaries and norms created by the intellect and knowledge that we have gained with our attitudes towards life and experiences of life. Thus,  an ego hurt is any act or episode or person acting against our set borders and norms. ...
We as humans need assurance from people that we are supreme and that makes us achieve all our material goals and at a level we actually start feeling great about our so called success and knowledge that we virtually start feeling like rulers of people around us especially friends and family and that is the evolution of this highly dangerous thing called EGO.

Let's put it this way the day we start feeling supreme in our own self is the time we have closed all the doors of learning and enhancing. It's the end of self improvement or self nourishment when we have blocked our selves to our own limited knowledge. ..Ego is thus something we have to use it wisely as a tool to prevent this mind in nurturing unethical thoughts but rather not make it as powerful that it ceases to let us grow and learn more....

An individual with a self oriented perception and limited knowledge and intelligence will only lean against the cushions of EGO..
Its a pitiful state as EGO IS AN ILLUSION THAT WILL DESTROY SELF WORTH...

TAKE CARE......