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Tuesday, December 29, 2015

Sadistic ?????? Whyy????

SADISTIC  PERSONALITY  DISORDER......

Its a personality  issue which is very common  but very difficult  to be revealed to people around....

Many of us are or closely  associated  to someone  like  that..... How many of us really understand  the  seriousness  of this disorder????

People who have a personality  where they cannot come in terms with  their  past agony or  those who have repeatedly scratched their hidden emotional wounds and have developed  a vengeance  for the  society  in general  but often end up victimizing known people by causing harm to them.....

Among such  people  are those who create misunderstanding  between  people, to physically  harming someone, or making  someone  feel extremely  worthless, etc.. These culprits  are many  a times not  even aware of their problems but can be viral to  the society  as one wounded  person  if finds solutions  in hurting  others , this act will continue  to spread  and create a society  filled with  sadistic  people around....

A simple  way to diagnose  this is to spot a trait  in kids... If they  start enjoying  and finding  ultimate  pleasure  by bullying  or  hurting  other children, this  can take  them towards  committing  heinous  crimes  as adults  as they have learnt that as a method to please themselves......

A simple  exercise here for each one of us is to sit quietly and  think, be it individual  or  communal  or  national..... If we heart of hearts enjoy any  inhuman act and  are convinced  that the  victim deserved it.... WE ARE SADIST AS WELL.....

We are no one to judge whats wrong  and whats right to  levy punishment  as individuals.... All we can as humans very  well judge and conclude is that.... Any act that would  give us pain should  definitely  not be levied upon  others... AS SIMPLE AS THAT.....

Let's  get over our inbuilt  anger towards any sex, community  or nation to stop  enjoying  cruel  acts as a means  to teaching  lessons  to one another..... Getting  over sadism is a huge RELIEF  to SELF  THAN OTHERS.....

Friday, December 18, 2015

Why did I meet YOU?????

WHY DID WE MEET?????

I don't  know how many of you have ever wondered as to WHY we particularly  come across only some selected  people where as this world is overly populated  and we are social  beings......

I  get to hear this question  from one person  from a couple who is emotionally  devastated  on breaking  up of  that  relationship..... I  personally  had my answers to those questions  but was a very difficult  task to explain  it to them.....

I  realised  that with each individual  in our life... Whatever  role they play... These people have met us for a reason.... The reasons  are given emotional  names  called LOVE, FRIENDSHIP, HATE, ACQUAINTANCES, etc but each has something  to contribute  in our  lives....

Sometimes, we meet someone  with a specific  reason.... It can be purely professional  and can turn out to  be a close  emotional  bond.... Some can be mere co workers, university fellow  student  or  a teacher.... But apart  from these statuses  some can  have a lifelong compassionate  relationship..... While some met with a reason  to work with, spend  life  with, etc could emerge as someone  who would  carry bitterness  all life..

Among all these  varieties  what  amazes me is that whether we like it or  not these different  categories  have ended up banging into us for a REASON.....

The REASON  isn't  too complicated  its something  we all ideally have to do as humans but as we do not simply because  of our never ending list  of  fulfilling  desires of material  things.... That  thing is... SELF SEARCH.... INTROSPECTION...
Ideally, if that  is done  we are well aware of the balancing  act of self  irrespective  of who ever we meet but IF someone  is having  some  different  effect on us  be it Good or  Bad.... It is a signal to learn something  enchanting  about our inner self.....

How do we do that??

1. Think of any xyz individual  in your life
2. Recollect  your initial  feeling  after meeting  that  person  for first time.... If a family  member  think of their  first  time heart touching  episode with them (good or bad)
3. Think of yourself as a person  in every  way... Good  and worse  NOW
4. Again  go back  to analyse  how were  you different  then....
5. Now try to figure out how  this individual  has affected you to what  extent  and  which  area of  your personality  is changed due to presence  of that  person....
6. Lastly, if the change is positive (which in most  cases would be), it will be more  enhanced then you were  probably  in that experience  to gain this  quality.. And if the change was  deteriorating  then it is time for you to distance  yourself and proceed towards  more positive  people......

This is not a very satisfying  way that  I  could have explained  but it was  a small  effort made  to probably  help some of you to perceive  your issues  from  a different  angle......

Think about it..... If any queries... Feel free to write to me at...
 
kmp6501@gmail.com

Take care....

Thursday, December 3, 2015

FALLING  IN LOVE  or an ACHIEVEMENT??

Falling for  someone at a go can be due to many factors...
Either  it was the physical  charm
Or
Sense of showing  empathy  and understanding
Or
Intelligence
Or
Success Story
Or
Style of talking, smile, etc

It could be either  of above, all or a combination  of said traits  which  can contribute  towards an initial  attraction towards  any individual.... That is a very normal phenomenon , the  challenge  is the next stage...
Whether you  Desperately   want that person  to be in your  life as you think  you deserve  her/him...
Or
You just need to make an impression  so that that individual  falls for  you
Or
You  are a sadist and you  want her/him to  be emotionally  dependent  on  you
Or
YOU TEST YOUR INBUILT ABILITIES THAT WHOEVER YOU THOUGHT OF; YOU CAN GET INTO A RELATIONSHIP  EASILY AS YOU HAVE THAT CHARM.....

More  or  less majority  of people fall in either  of the  categories  when they say they fell in love... The category  that  took my attention  today was the  last one...

These individuals  are those who take  it up as a defeat and a challenge  to seduce the  tough  one who caught  their  eye.... Apart from those n number  of  others who were in so called love  with such people, their focus remains  on the one who seems not impressed  enough or  carried  away enough by their self believed charm.....

Its surely a human psychology  to get more attracted to something  we are denied .... But leaving it at the point  where its made clear  that opposite  person  isn't  really interested  is what  is ideal...  But NO, many of us want to prove it to ourselves  that its a wrong  decision  to reject you and thus all crazy attempts  at playing various  mind games to attract that someone....

Is this not wasting  time?????
If thought of it practically, it is satisfaction  of  our Ego that  will make us lure and seek  someone  who cares a damn..

People need to develop  an understanding, a maturity  that someone  who truly will appreciate  you as a person  will not need you playing  out these  tricks... It will be so very natural..

The problem  here is, the insecured self that  we carry, we become impulsive  and anxious  for that individual  and start making them as a life goal.....

I  can give a benefit  of doubt  to  young teens doing such things  but  what takes me by surprise  is that all age group  especially  educated, classy  type are more into this business...

Well, all I  can end with is, if this mental  and physical  effort  be done for higher spiritual goals, it will bring about a true sense of SELF ACHIEVEMENT...

TAKE CARE