Law of Accident ( Universal law of life)

The core  seven laws of life  which I  will be addressing  in my current  seven blog  posts are those truths which function around  us, exist right here,   whether  we believe  in them  or  not.

Last post described  LAW OF CONTROL which says that  each one of us need to essentially  take the charge of our  lives  by management  of our minds  which can majorly help in controlling  our internal  state which can later help in smooth  functionality  of our lives.

LAW OF ACCIDENT, is on the other hand  inverse of LAW OF CONTROL .... To understand  this universal  law, to put it simply , to those who do not adopt  LAW OF CONTROL  are automatically  under the influence  of  LAW OF ACCIDENT...

LAW  OF ACCIDENT  means every time an event happens, we either feel like a beneficiary  or victimized  as an element  of that event.  This law gets in action if law of Control  isn't  adopted by  us.

To ease out the confusion, this is how the law works... While  life is all about  situations  and each single event or set of events are advantageous  to some and disastrous  for some, it is very important  to understand  that  if internal state of mind is well groomed to balance its emotional  baggage, it can seldom  or rarely  get affected by external  events but if we aren't  able to bring  our thoughts  under control we often are subject to  any environmental  impact  on our  lives.

To quote  an example here, people who have relationship  issues  generally  are seen blaming  their  partners  in failure  of their relationship  and conveniently  move on to next  level but  if they aren't  aware of their  own flaws there, they again would fall into similar  situations  and end up blaming  destiny, environment, etc for  their  condition. Thus, people  who  do not want to take  charge  of their lives  are often  found  blaming  people and situations  and over the period of time are victims  of extremely  low  self esteem to further deteriorate  their  lives.....

As we all understand  the importance  of high self esteem  in successfully  living our lives , also happiness  is the result  of this  trait  which needs to be maintained  and developed  by self improvement  at every step....

Take  care

Law of Control..... (universal law of life)

Here we go with our very first  LAW OF LIFE Called  ..... LAW OF CONTROL

The Law of Control states that we feel good about ourselves to the degree to which we feel that we are in control of our own lives. When we are physically, mentally and emotionally controlling the changes in our lives, then this naturally leads to higher levels of achievement, emotional satisfaction and a sense of fulfillment. Uncontrolled change on the other hand leads to stress, anxiety, frustration and misery — all of which signifies that our mind lacks discipline, order and structure.

Basically, as kids our nurturing, training  and education  should  essentially  make us quite capable  of taking complete  control  of ourselves. Control in physical  elements  are quite reachable  with  sound  financial  state but other  two elements  are most dicey as they  are not focused well while  we grow and often end up with loss of control with any unexpected  negative event.

Control  of self, is the best  way to  prevent  self from any damage and feel every moment  worth  living. Unfortunately, most  of us aren't  well equipped  with the techniques  to take complete  self control  and thus people with material  resources  and  some  also with  or without  material  power, having used their  given intellect  to manipulate  and conspire other elements  in environment  do establish  a control over them and feel winners  through out....

I would once envy such  people who  would control people around them to feel a sense of power, satisfaction  but as I  started  to search  the essentials  of peaceful  life, I  soon realized  that I  need not feel annoyed and disturbed if I  am unable to control my environment  as my life  purpose  and peace lies only in self control.

The  more I  started to take control  of my self, the more  sorted, confident and relaxed I  felt and my annoyance  towards those POWERFUL  people who all their  lives kept  controlling  environmental  factors  for  personal  benefits turned into sheer sympathy as they were still unaware of UNIVERSAL  POWERS and are under an illusion  that their each game  is played well.....

I see number  of relationships  where usually  women who generally  seek more power but are not equipped  to gain it by their own  feminine  personality  which  can selflessly  do enormous  work  WASTE THEIR  TIME while successfully  spending entire life faking love towards husband, friends, etc for material  power and keep misusing  their trust  till they have  to face  the cruel destiny decisions....

In my practice, at times, I find myself  in a tough situation  where  its so difficult  to get  people  to an understanding  of  this simple universal truth Take Control of  Self, not Over Others especially  not your loved  ones...

In nutshell, its hard but ULTIMATE to have our own mind, body, actions under our control rather than staying  stressed out as in my life, what should be my next move to control  environment ??? This is infact a very pitiable  condition  where ones happiness  is ONLY depended on others behaviour.....

LET'S TAKE COMPLETE CONTROL OF ONLY OURSELVES  TO EXPERIENCE  THAT  PEACE WE ALL ARE SEEKING.....

Mind power..... 7 blogs and lets understand ourselves better

Friends...All the wonderful  people  who  motivated  me all these months to write my experiences  and thoughts  to bring about an entire different  perspective  of routine episodes...... Thank you each one  ....

Soulpsychology.blogspot.com  now will work on topics where by we have one said subject  and write ups in there  as a    'seasonal  subject  '.

I am extremely  eager to have my readers inputs, comments, suggestions  to all that is  being posted, kindly  oblige..

To start with we are now  starting  with our first  topic for mental growth  and that is Universal  Laws of life....

Life  operates on basic  universal  laws known as universal  truths which help us in our routine  operations and there by give us tremendous  insight.... A basic  and in-depth understanding  of these ensures substantial  mental peace  as it is free from manipulations...

Not  getting  more technical  on what are universal  laws, we hit on may 1st with the first universal law called.... Law of control.

Meanwhile  a feedback  on earlier  blogs  will be greatly helpful....

Regards,

Stay  blessed!

Truth Tales (tells) soul stirring facts....

True that!
What's  the truth????

For each one of us TRUTH is what we are COMPLETELY  CONVINCED  with.....

No concept , no  book, no  individual  can change  the BELIEFS we live with... These  beliefs are AT THAT  MOMENT  are our Truths....

BELIEFS  are formed  with stories  we hear but strong ones are formed only  with  the experience  we have had....

My recent  encounters with my own self where I  know my preferences  better than what I  knew few years back..... It was  amazing  to now have my beliefs rationalized  with  my own experiences  and  that gave me a different  level of confidence  with myself....

This  true realization  about  self was mesmerizing  and I  never knew that  how difficult  will it be to let people  around me introduce  to this new self of mine I discovered.... After handling of complications  around and still  feeling  great about being who I am... I  was more in love  with  transparency .

The effects  of truth that  can be seen in our various  relationships  are:

1. Love :

People  we felt who  loved us and claimed to have fallen  in love with  us for  what  we are and not what  we look like or can give in return  can show some mind blowing  changed unexpected  reactions and the TRUE  hidden colors  automatically  reflect out as... We stood by our true feelings which  wasn't  easy  to be accepted  as it was too true to be good... So  lessons  we learn as we portray our true  self, however  sweet it is, it is hard to find that,   if we go against  the demands of  someone  who  claims  to love us but fails to understand  us  and  cannot respect your preferred  choice at that moment....

Most relationships  where  agreement  happened  only to save someone  from drifting  apart isn't  a long term  relationship  to cherish, relationship  should  be as matured to accept each  other's  choices  at times and reveal discomforts  to  one another..

Friendship :

Friends  are those who are aware of your  drawbacks  but still want you in their  life for  your positives.... As and when a changed true personality  can encounter  friends  in general , your  non conformity  to many issues might crack the bond but its a great way  to know who still stands by you to give you that individual  space and respect  to enhance your  internal growth.... Friends  who can make others puppets under the wraps of friendship  are those  who are far far away  from their own self.....

The more I  know  myself, the more I  understand  others  and  that  does bring about  a turbulence  in life but it surely  helps me in a peaceful  mental state....

Love each one for their individual  qualities.... Its easy to live happily..

Who cast the spell of CASTEISM????

Aren't  we all educated right  from birth as to what CASTE we belong  to???? Its an important  curiosity  raised within a child when everywhere  in any institution, organization, record its mandatory  to fill up the caste column.....

No one would  like to  thus leave it blank and therefore  after gaining  the knowledge  of CASTE name, we would want  to or are forced  to dwell deeper into  its glory and the fortunate  feel being instilled  within if an individual  is born into a higher caste....

How was this hierarchy  of castes decided, with  my very limited  knowledge , I assume it  is vedic as per Hindu  religion  and among other communities  and  religions  it must be as per the originator  of that  particular  caste  and  sub caste based  on different  philosophies  of different  spiritual  leaders.... Thus emerged  an entire big ocean of CASTES, COMMUNITIES, CREED, RACE, RELIGION, ETCETERA, ETC.

If everything around  us is a boon or curse, I  guess the positive  aspects  of creating  Castes  and religions  are more of a curse today  as nowhere its essential  meaning is being acted upon.

The law and order, regulations  and rules to  help smooth  functionality  of humans was the idea to bring upon these, religion  being a way to attain spirituality  and  religious  scripts  to have a controlled and humane approach in societal  operations are now turned  into FEAR BASED religions  and  DIFFERENTIATION  BASED  castes.....

I have witnessed  pride in many so called higher castes on the basis  of  that mentioned  in Scriptures and like wise an indirect hatred and dislike, almost  looking down upon those born under other castes.... Was  this the intention  on creating  CASTEISM???? If not, the so called highly learned class today who have academic  proficiency  but no humane values as that  particular mental work is governed by fear, pride and manipulated  thoughts against  other  people.....

Every tradition  is created with  a good intention but we often forget rather do not even  bother to understand  as to under what given condition  a particular  ritual /tradition  or hierarchical  CASTEISM  was  given rise to and what  were the underlying  intentions  to follow them....????

If today, with intellectual  contributions  we can replace cooking on fire with  gas stoves and electric  stoves as we understand  that purpose  of cooking  has to be  fulfilled  not the same method as times have changed.... Similarly  with globalization , when everyone  is freely traveling  everywhere  and immense exchanges  of ideas are taking place, why do we not extract the  ESSENCE  of  our religious  teaching  and values for  HUMANITY  PURPOSE  and gain our SPIRITUAL  PROGRESS  TOO?????

To my astonishment, the more I  find  people  immersed into castes, religions and rituals, the more insensitive and inhumane  they tend to become towards all who do not belong  to their group or subgroup....  Many might not uprightly show  the difference to carry on with  their professional  benefits  but have  nurtured a differentiated  feeling  toward others...

This  herd mentality , which the so  called INTELLECTUAL  MAN is following  is degrading  their  spiritual  growth.... Its sad but true that spiritual  and material  growth  are inversely  proportionate ...

Millions of  temple, mosques, churches, etc  with tremendous  amount  of mental  and physical  contributions  to religious  methods are still not able to reduce  or control  the growing  hatred of MAN vs MAN....

Let's  stick to our core  reality of being a
HUMAN first and then everything  will be clearer  to adopt  as much needed to bring PEACE and HARMONY....

MAY WE ALL BE BLESSED!

Cleavage.....

I  don't  even have to imagine, I  know how many of you must have understood or rather visualized  CLEAVAGE as one typical meaning  we have all know ever since.... But... There's  a little  disappointment  here... I  don't  really mean to make you lovely  people focus there, CLEAVAGE , here means a separating  line...

I wondered  what was so  attractive  about  cleavage and when I  was searching  for its hidden psychological  reason , it was  obvious  that  one organ which got  a separation gave it that aesthetic value leaving apart its functionality......

Any thing thus can be viewed  either as a whole  or in  parts..... What made this  cleavage meaning so wonderful  here was that if any life issue be considered  on its overall values and in its factorization , we  often find  that not all are as bad and as difficult  to handle and some might actually  prove  exciting.

Like, the food we eat.....meals  usually  have more than two or three items and we all know  it basically  means  to all give us nutritional  value  but to lead to its  main function  we relish it by eating them separately even if arranged in a plate, it has to  be served distinctively to bring about  a notice  to enjoy every dish thus prepared....

It was a very random comparison  but it did give me some meaning  thus would like  to share.... Life has its different  dishes to offer and all  of them can't  have same taste but if mixed together  can  give a very dirty  picture thus, we need to be mindful  at  tackling  all major and minor  issues  separately  and then enjoy an overall  view to yield maximum out of our problem  solving  capacities......

Mental issues  will be prevented  at great lengths is small issues are settled  at their  individual  levels and not let it build up on our psyche so deep to encounter  an ugly mental state and health....

Take care

Friends with Benefits.... (relationship)

Starts with being an acquaintance, to  a friend  and can  easily  lead  to being  FRIENDS  WITH  BENEFITS...

For  those  of you who are unaware  of this  term called  FRIENDS WITH  BENEFITS (FWB), It is a friendship  where  you also have courtship  without  commitment....

In many societies, this term can come as a shocker  where  as some societies  have accepted  this openly..... I  am  not  here to discuss  what  FWB is all about but its psychological  implications  in nutshell....

The important  thing  to  remember  here is an individual  perception of sex, love and friendship.... Each of these  terms  have  a dictionary  meaning  but do all  of us essentially  take it that  way? For  example, a couple  in love can  have  sex  to make love, to  express love..... A person  with an acute  physical  urge will  indulge  into sex as a mere biological  need, an Indian  married  couple takes it as a duty, etc.... As per Osho, sex  is that internal realization  or feel which a person  can  possibly  experience  and feel at the blissful  peak and thus is that  feel compared to the one which people get during  the oneness experienced  during meditation  and  this is  essentially  a soulful experience.....

If that holds true for many people, is feeling  of oneness possible for  these people while  they have physical  intimacy  with many  around.. ..... I  doubt...

One fact that  I  understand  is that  sexual  need  is both physical  and emotional  but which  one is more prominent  at  a time is the question  which is an answer too...

A marriage  thus should be more an open friendly  relationship  with each other which can serve the purpose  well but  the catch  in every  so called relationship  is the POSSESSIVENESS  and EMOTIONAL  INSECURITIES.... and marriage  might have maximum  as its a societal  bond which is more of  a social  status.....
Given such  limitations, more and  more  people  are trying  to fulfill  their  sexual  needs without  any commitments..... But as I  quoted  earlier  sexual  need can be both purely  physical  or emotional  or both and if its a professional  sex worker  there are no emotions  involved  what so ever and if its a lover  there are many unreasonable  emotions  involved  too..... And there the concept  of FWB served the purpose for many who find a marginal mixture  of both  the ingredients  in helping  people  get intimate  without  any  strings attached.....

Well, this seemed like  such an ideal way to operate  that people following  this fail to notice  some  important  things surrounding  such  arrangements.... Like:

One such relationship can make  an overall  perception  of all friends  who could be included in such arrangements.... Which  is not a healthy  sign

Other effects  being, there are  great  chances that  later either one can get emotionally  insecured for the  other...

If both have an excellent  physical  compatibility, and  they  decide to  tie knots  on  that  basis  alone.... Other aspects  may  cause  trouble  in future...

And a slightly  different  but according  to me the most difficult  kind of situation  will be where A HEALTHY, HEARTY, OPEN, EXCELLENT FRIENDSHIP  which was not  endangered  with any issues  can go UGLY by SEXUAL  interference  therein.... So, a greed  to  get physical  pleasure  from  friends  can destroy  a heartiest  friendship  and that is more disastrous.... As friends  are defined  as those  who  are not judgemental  about you  and this aspect (of being  non judgemental)   is difficult  to achieve  in any relationship  even  in FWB.....

So  folks, Think before  you  can walk that extra mile to derive an additional  pleasure  out of an amazing  friendship ...