Sexual Repression gives birth to Vulgarity.....

This is a controversial topic in Indian Scenario where every mind is thinking about SEX but prohibited to talk about it... The society is conditioned since generations to remain sexually repressed under the cover of CULTURE...

Molestations within the families and family friends, brushing of bodies against privates, getting erection by mere sight of cleavage and fantasizing kinky sexual actions are all results of SEXUAL REPRESSION....

No particular gender is to be blamed here, it is the imposition of such guilt stricken thoughts that has bought this society to its threshold and now more and more people are out with a rebellious attitude towards breaking free this culture cage.

Culture should not be  forced stopping of something that's a natural flow but channeling the flow in right manner....

Let's imagine, a person deprived of food and water in the name of fasting without his own will and wish... He /she will either sneak out and eat and drink or if under no such option will snatch it to satisfy self..
Many a times, its not real hunger or thirst but inbuilt anger that plays the culprit.

We are blind followers of Religious practices and more dangerously its preachers... Weak minded people who can follow another fellow human being without using self gifted intellect is bound to be imprisoned by so called culture cage. Scriptures are also available in versions of different people and we take them as GOD'S statements... An human at its own SENSITIVE level, with a clean Conscience is far above and far learned than any of the said books... But the point is we are taught to listen to others but self.

Sexual thoughts and needs are basic needs of every individual... To prevent misuse and over indulgence into sexual issues we groom our children to not even mention it or talk of it.... The more we push them away the more they are desperate to know and get involved... Children sneak out to sexual acts because they cannot even talk about it... And that becomes a crime...

We have many so called cultured population within our society who never talks about sex only THINKS about it... And they are the ones highly dominant in their own sexual  life, who can only interact with said opposite sex with a complete vulgar mind and has to remain absolutely alert in keeping up that super cultural image all the time.

I am not promoting sexual talks by hitting on to this topic, my aim here is to bring about an awareness that what we think is culture is actually the cause in creating sexual desperation among the population.

There is a category which is  Maniac... These people are soaked into sexual thoughts 24X7,like those people who are obsessed with food inspite of having it in abundance... (they are excluded from this condition)

There's definitely a line, a limit to everything but here we are trying to deprive people of their basic needs under the name of culture and that is leading to many mental issues.

The kind of cases I have recently, it is more of a liberated lifestyle people are seeking... People are rebellious in taking a risk of their settled lifestyle just to experiment and indulge into a life where there are no limitations....

This urge is generated due to over prevention of natural needs and desires... If giving complete liberation is risky during teens (which is risky) then there should be proper communication and exchange of information from adults in the family to help lead a sexually healthy life for coming generations..

Even, open sexual talk at times can help in venting out of many risky underlying subconscious desires and can help in dealing with self created sexual feelings and can take a call between ethical and unethical moves.

I was wondering, why in our surrounding people are over protective for their women folks but drool over Sunny Leone s nudes and are all over porn sites..... It is that unsaid sexual streak within which gets into a desperation.... Culture I believe wouldn't allow these traits as well....

Culture would be.. Under closed doors, without any supervision,  if two sexually attractive strangers can  sit, glance, express in words about their attraction yet remain poised and calm only because they are committed to someone else and they choose not to be infidel.

Who can do this... Can be truly termed as cultured.... That's what I define culture as...

****Apologies if I ve hurt anyone but my purpose was general awareness ONLY not targeting anyone in particular ***

Be.. Beyond BED(SEX)

Being Beautiful.... is an asset, a god gifted quality  and being attractive  also is a physical trait worth flaunting but.....  Is that all????

Beauty, good looks, etc have always defined an individuals acceptance levels in society  but this is a first step to discover illusion ;as brainless beauty, inhumane beauty is WORTHLESS...

Many philosophies have discussed that beauty isn't a trait worth feeling arrogant about but the fact still remains that lay men and common men are hooked on to those physical appearances and are slaves to these  most foolish  quality people have naturally inherited....

The way beauty products, garment industry and artificial  beauty enhancers have captured people's minds, it leaves me with a bottom level question.... Is beauty  more  important than brains, humanity, generosity, etc....????

I encounter  few old acquaintances who start up with applauds over looks and seem concentrated over there and that gives me a thought as to whether these people can ever go beyond beauty and bed....

Beauty is mesmerizing.... I cannot deny but the real person beyond those looks is more important to be explored... Its no wonder that people who have hooked themselves around looks will never have a satisfied relationship  with anyone as what they run behind itself is such a temporary  element....

Its sad that those who are gifted with intelligence too have a deep craving for sexual encounters with a hot body and sensual beauty but this warmth of sexual pleasure is so temporary if that individual has no humane qualities to enhance their inner person.... Having such encounters only reflects that shallow intellect one possessed only to enjoy worldly pleasure... Its not wrong but having  centered around these is definitely indulging into stagnancy and fruitless life in the longer run....

For some people, their destination is bed... They enter into relationship with opposite sex to end up having sex.... This attitude is an object  oriented personality which has no or very little  room for emotions... Emotions, which can bind people for ages with or without physical touch.... I often feel sorry to have considered these kinds as intellectual folks again looking at their academic records but its the outlook that reflects their actual intelligence and inbuilt aura of connectedness....

Its hilarious to see how people question any acquaintance keeping their outer or inner qualities in mind and this necessarily becomes a deciding  area to whether we choose to stagnant our growth  with such people or move on and work towards self growth.....

Be a beautiful Person with beautiful heart....

Friends with Benefits.... (relationship)

Starts with being an acquaintance, to  a friend  and can  easily  lead  to being  FRIENDS  WITH  BENEFITS...

For  those  of you who are unaware  of this  term called  FRIENDS WITH  BENEFITS (FWB), It is a friendship  where  you also have courtship  without  commitment....

In many societies, this term can come as a shocker  where  as some societies  have accepted  this openly..... I  am  not  here to discuss  what  FWB is all about but its psychological  implications  in nutshell....

The important  thing  to  remember  here is an individual  perception of sex, love and friendship.... Each of these  terms  have  a dictionary  meaning  but do all  of us essentially  take it that  way? For  example, a couple  in love can  have  sex  to make love, to  express love..... A person  with an acute  physical  urge will  indulge  into sex as a mere biological  need, an Indian  married  couple takes it as a duty, etc.... As per Osho, sex  is that internal realization  or feel which a person  can  possibly  experience  and feel at the blissful  peak and thus is that  feel compared to the one which people get during  the oneness experienced  during meditation  and  this is  essentially  a soulful experience.....

If that holds true for many people, is feeling  of oneness possible for  these people while  they have physical  intimacy  with many  around.. ..... I  doubt...

One fact that  I  understand  is that  sexual  need  is both physical  and emotional  but which  one is more prominent  at  a time is the question  which is an answer too...

A marriage  thus should be more an open friendly  relationship  with each other which can serve the purpose  well but  the catch  in every  so called relationship  is the POSSESSIVENESS  and EMOTIONAL  INSECURITIES.... and marriage  might have maximum  as its a societal  bond which is more of  a social  status.....
Given such  limitations, more and  more  people  are trying  to fulfill  their  sexual  needs without  any commitments..... But as I  quoted  earlier  sexual  need can be both purely  physical  or emotional  or both and if its a professional  sex worker  there are no emotions  involved  what so ever and if its a lover  there are many unreasonable  emotions  involved  too..... And there the concept  of FWB served the purpose for many who find a marginal mixture  of both  the ingredients  in helping  people  get intimate  without  any  strings attached.....

Well, this seemed like  such an ideal way to operate  that people following  this fail to notice  some  important  things surrounding  such  arrangements.... Like:

One such relationship can make  an overall  perception  of all friends  who could be included in such arrangements.... Which  is not a healthy  sign

Other effects  being, there are  great  chances that  later either one can get emotionally  insecured for the  other...

If both have an excellent  physical  compatibility, and  they  decide to  tie knots  on  that  basis  alone.... Other aspects  may  cause  trouble  in future...

And a slightly  different  but according  to me the most difficult  kind of situation  will be where A HEALTHY, HEARTY, OPEN, EXCELLENT FRIENDSHIP  which was not  endangered  with any issues  can go UGLY by SEXUAL  interference  therein.... So, a greed  to  get physical  pleasure  from  friends  can destroy  a heartiest  friendship  and that is more disastrous.... As friends  are defined  as those  who  are not judgemental  about you  and this aspect (of being  non judgemental)   is difficult  to achieve  in any relationship  even  in FWB.....

So  folks, Think before  you  can walk that extra mile to derive an additional  pleasure  out of an amazing  friendship ...

RACISM? ??DON'T DENY....We All Are Racists

YES! !!WE ARE ALL RACISTS.
Racism doesn't come naturally by birth but yet UNFORTUNATELY ,we all are Racists.
I was wondering why do we have to fill in the coloumn of caste,community, religion for places like academics ,health or wherever. It was a soft realisation when my child asked me how we belong to xyz caste make a difference ????
Indeed ! The column asking such details itself is to raise DIFFERENCES. We Humans love segregation to the extent we have segregated our human values too.

Any crime from Rape To Terrorism takes place Only and Only due to racist attitude within an individual or group.
We all to our social extent as well are very much racists. We all are members of abc community not only to celebrate good times but indirectly to show biased behaviour towards others.
Its highly appreciating to see certain communities extending helping hands to people but AGAIN !!!HELPING ON PRIORITY TO PEOPLE WHO ARE OF SAME COMMUNITY? ???Sad but true Human values are showcased differently for different humans and then we claim to Be Humans who HELP.
The upbringing is most important to implant certain HUMANE Traits and later an individual can decide for self but preaching that Each One Has a Supreme caste ,community, relogion,colour,gender etc is also RACISM by itself.
Laws alone cannot bring peace if there is hidden anger and complex for other beings around.
Think about it!!!!

WE men or Women. ..should be the same! !!!!

WE ....What's this WE?????
Is it Women or We Men????

On this International Women's Day, I wish to raise this question to one and all ???
Is it a good sign to have a DAY dedicated to the creation of the Universe and to that Creation who is an important source for further creation of human species.

Its rather not an equality portrayed if one gender needs a special day to make people understand their existence and importance.

The basic issue with we humans is that we FEAR others overpowering us and we usually play a very bad game of suppression of other beings around and feel winner.

If the fact is accepted that MAN & WOMAN union can make wonders and that only is the ultimate feel of oneness  then Why Not Take each other as EQUAL COMPETITION to enhance more of personal and societal growth ????

The so called old cold war between the genders and differences  created generations ago has unfortunately taken deep roots to ruin the power that could be created if we can see beyond the BODY ..... and there lies the similarity
SOUL...
So here I end this post NOT with Happy Woman's Day BUT rather
WISH YOU ALL TO BE HAPPIER EACH DAY!!!!

Love Making Or Lust Making

What people call as LOVE MAKING is basically LUST +LOVE. Physical Intimacy is necessarily part of LUST...which is not worth criticism as its a pushing factor for expression of LOVE at physical level.

LOVE without Lust is unfortunately nor understood neither given any importance to.....

WHY?????

LOVE is essentially not only for personal pleasure and gives more importance to feeling ONE while into the intimate moment and rest all just happens but it's Lust which says something but means something else....I.e.Lust says Its Love but focuses on personal pleasure at physical levels and the practical example of the same is marriages which get sour in absence of Lust from one of the partners......

The Human Need chart also reflects clearly as Lust form of love (sexual intercourse) as a physical need but Love as FEELING INTIMATE is a higher need and as HUMANS we necessarily upgrade our selves towards self actualization and Love here is an important milestone to cover...

Therefore; 

LUST is purely physical /biological/harmonal

LOVE is emotional / selfless/ union of two people into oneness. 

SO ......how many of you have experienced oneness without even a bit of thought given to personal physical satisfaction is a question to be answered to realise our needs at soul level.