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Sunday, July 2, 2017

Undressed by words????

ITS ONLY WORDS...
AND WORDS ARE ALL I HAVE
TO TAKE YOUR HEART AWAY....
lyrics of a track by Boyzone (a musical group) is surely insightful to peep within the psyche of someone who has been a victim of words being showered upon...
Most of the Love Stories start with glances but what takes it to a next level is usually words...
A very interesting episode I want to quote here is of my two friends, of which when the guy wanted to officially propose that girl.. He chose to write her a letter and it had all possible bollywood content of wooing a girl and it seemed quite a puppy kind of expression to us, we were expecting this girl to probably react in a similar way but astonishingly, she was super impressed and was instantly in love with him.... What made the shift happen was the words that penetrated into her mind..
Thus, once a couple is in Love... There is an intense feeling within which virtually makes them transparent to one another not only mentally but also physically long before they actually go physical.. So the magic of words results in mental to physical penetration without bodies actually working on it....
Words thus can indeed penetrate minds and just like a simple difference between consensual sex and rape... Words can also brutally make someone feel undressed if they are misused...
The technical way of words hitting others remain same but using this strong weapon called words can result into severe damage of someone's self respect miserably good enough to virtually kill a relationship or humanity...
People who claim to be straight communicators can often commit such crimes at great levels.... Reasons being either to outsmart others,  to win over an argument, trying to be humorous at the cost of others, an intentional attempt to insult someone, etc etc.. These are the verbal rapists who love to undress others dignity in public or private....
Its very easy for me to identify such people coz I was a ruthless person when it came to putting down people with various intentions at various occasions merely by using blunt communication techniques but those were the days I was a victim of very poor self esteem and with a torn self confidence, I would do that to stay in the self created bubble of being a head strong person... It was a gradual realization and its late but I am glad I do realize my inability then to Respect Human Dignity....
But, there's another category too, who again on achieving academic​, material and social high do start looking upon others with a superior feel... This attitude too at times can give rise to creation of pseudo power within and an assumption that they are qualified to pass disrespectful comments and jokes....
Sense of humor, is a beautiful thing... I personally love this trait in people and its great to have an intellect to be witty, to crack practical jokes but a very delicate line here is often crossed over as... Its a known fact that Sense Of Humor needs to be excersized at the cost of disrespecting someone.... Its very important to realize and understand how is that victim taking such jokes as many a times, it might lead to soft insult via humour....
To wrap up the write up.. I only wanted to highlight this sharp weapon called words which can  make and break relationships and can leave one feeling either highly Respected or Disrespected with a permanent impact on human psyche....
To conclude .. I want to use this platform to apologize to all those to whom I have intentionally or otherwise been a medium for making them feel bad or miserable by my incorrect usage of words...
Thank you....