Telepathic communication .... Worth trying!

Ever wondered  how people sometimes  say that it was a telepathy when two  people  end up saying  the same thing  at same  time or  when  we think of  someone  intensely  and  that person  calls or  messages????  It  is even more  satisfying  than a planned meet with that  individual .

I  wouldn't  have understood  this term as well until I  experienced  few astonishing  such events  when I  could  convincingly say  that indeed telepathic  communication  is the strongest  and most intimate  type of  communication.

Like  two  parties  that are essentially  involved  in communication, even this communication  requires  two people  atleast but in my experience  even if that  individual  isn't  thinking  of you at that  moment  there  is a message  that is stored for  him/her and you will be surprised  to find an answer  from  those  people  in due  course.

I  would  at a given time keep calling  people  numerous  times  to know  their  well being or just stay connected  as I feared that  I  would  loose out on that  special  person  if I  do not  keep  in touch. It so  turned out  that  I  started to push those  special  ones away  by clinging  on to them... We are so much anxiety prone  due to various electronic  communication  means that  we want a response  to our conversation  immediately  and that creates  a big mental conflict with self and those  loved ones...

It was only  in  the due course  that  I  started to work at the deeper level and involved  those infinite  elements  present  in our universe  which are so very common  to all.....

It was my random auto rickshaw  ride that stilled my mind to someone  I was thinking  of... I  realized  dropping  a few tears while in that thought and there  I started to send those  deeply felt  messages  via breeze, via the sun rays and I  was so very sure  that  I  am able  to send across those inner feelings which even otherwise  I  would  have not  said  in person .

And to my surprise  in few days I get  a message from an acquaintance  that  confirmed  my message  being reached that person  and thus the communication  started  off with a bang...

I  know for  many of you it must  be like  a imagined or hallucinating  trait to do something  like this but its called connection  between  two  minds at that  subconscious  level which enables  this beautiful  way of  being  in touch.....

To conclude, all that is essential  in telepathic  communication  is  a still mind, intense connect  and a strong belief  in self.... Its worth trying.....

Take  care

Parents ' hidden emotions and see that in your child's personality

Usually, there are parents who wish to give away everything  for their  children  and while they are  growing  up they  also  teach them the way to manage themselves  in society ..... But this is what  any parent  in general  feel....

But...
Are we all just general  parents.... Well! NO
We all feel we are among those special  bunch of parents  who will raise kids with perfection  irrespective  of whether  how normal  or perfect  we are!!!!
Its a nice thought but often  with acute alertness also there are these hidden emotions  within us that might not be spoken  but are reflected  in one way or the other..... That  has an immense  effect  on children.

A huge responsibility  of parenting  according  to parents  is to safeguard  their image or uplift their image  in society.
Using  children  as a medium to  either  gain that status or suppression  of their individuality  to maintain  that  status  which  parents have is  something  kids give back when they grow. An ideal example  being raising  a child with expectations  that our old age will be taken care of is something  that a child will also do but with an inner feeling that "I  have no option and have to bear with this"... Thus in both  the situations  it is  verbally  not  expressed but there's  a compulsion  reflected in both actions that  I  raise  you well today and you take care of  my  old age.....

I  couldn't  stop myself from  a keen observation  as to the very emotion parents  carry while conception  which also plays  a vital role in developing  those  hidden  feelings.... If a child is desperately  needed to either for  societal  sake as a married  couple  one  should  have, or that  now we need a fulfilling  time with  someone  we can nurture  or now I  can bring up another  life who needs care(adopted kids), etc these  thoughts  are never discussed  or even we aren't  aware of but if its more selfless the more humane values the child has... Very few people  adopt children  for giving  someone  else a life most adopt to have the pleasure  of  parenting  but nevertheless  it is more selfless than a conceived  child as one needs a very generous  heart to become  non biological  parents  and that's  the beautiful thought but if all the while parents  carry that  feeling  of giving  away  their  life  to a strange kid who will be a support  later will definitely  not turn out to  be as you  have expected....

I  kept thinking  about all different  parents and different  kids they have and made me wonder  about how such selfish  parents  have such humane kids and vice versa  but nevertheless  all mentioned  here isn't  a researched fact but a general  psychological  observation  which can  surely be challenged  and can have many many factors  involved  but it was a thought we can surely ponder upon...

Me, media and Mind.....

Media or  medium  of expressing thoughts, facts, etc have always played a vital role  in capturing  people's  mind in different  ways.... Now I  can probably  better  understand  or can explain  why certain  religious  groups  condemn the usage  of  media  giving  religious  prohibition..

I , as a kid would never enjoy movies  with even slightest  of violence  and hadn't completely seen any  movie  until I  was 10 years  and could  finally  see an entire  movie ;  once from  where my immense love for movies began.....

As per age,   movies were perceived and  rated , but heading from a family  which didn't  encourage  regular  movie viewing , I  would sneak  out and  even silently  watched documentaries  which were played  then  on  Doordarshan  on Saturday  night.  I  didn't  realize  then that why would even a slow moving  art movie also could capture me totally.

With friends  only block busters were seen but as I  started  to sit by myself  and gradually  learnt the depth of any other short and subject  orientated  movie, it became  my first  choice  to see such makes.

As a professional  psychologist, I  have my own  perceptions  of the movie but now  when  my profession has tuned me to use my lateral  thinking  totally it becomes  a habit to start  thinking  as to  how each individual  personality would  understand  a particular  movie.  This process  sometimes  makes  me feel like  going and extending  my pleads to certain  filmmakers  that, "kindly  understand  the variety  of people  who might completely  misunderstand the meaning  of the movie and can take disastrous  steps blindly  following  it".

Also, when  certain highly intense  and creative  concept  is flashed  upon, it can make  any block  mind rethink about their beliefs  and  its a revolutionary  effect  if people can change  their  beliefs .... Which  again becomes  a huge responsibility  of these creative  people to put it across  so accurately  and precisely  to help minimum misconceptions  and maximum openness  and  acceptance to new ideas, the versatility  of this world  and the core human that is the pushing force for any act, thought, event, product, etc....

I  personally  salute to all those who have used this audio visual medium of expression  of ideas to generate values and creation  of  an evolved mind activity by putting  it across beautifully  as a combination  of audio, visual, glamour , music, etc can do wonders and that's  how many blocked  heads do not  perceive it as a positive contributer..

Nevertheless, to  all my lovely  readers, understanding  that any  make  is a creative child of  the film maker  should be viewed  with  an open mind but having  our own balanced  mind activated.

Take  Care....

No secrets????.... No thrills???? Really???

As a teenager , I  started to have my set of secrets right from my crushes to my friends  relationships....Fortunately  or unfortunately  I  never was in any relationship  to feel the need for additional  baggage  of carrying  secrets but now  since last few years I  was pondering  upon a thought  as to why was the  need or why should  people do that???
Now  as a psychologist, when  people  open up to quite  an extent , its so hard to understand  that why  having a parallel  secret life commonly  existing.

On a deep thought, I  realized  that its a personality  issue at times and at times a confidence issue but the bitter truth is that  this leads  to many psychological  and mental problems later.

I  would often as a kid sneak out to watch movies  if I  wasn't  permitted  but have never  really  enjoyed watching  with total  fun as deep within  guilt would keep me disturbed. The  inner disturbances  then would  lead  to looking  out for further fun and recreation  to wipe out the guilt. This can get into a viscous  cycle  of lying , getting  disturbed  and further lying  to seek solution  for  disturbances...

Having  realised this as an important  reason  for  inner peace destruction  I  vowed  to stay secret free but when I  find others  who do crazy unethical  stuffs without  any so called need just because  having  everything  under the sky but without  effort isn't  giving  them enough  thrill, its sad.

We humans  want  to live in society  as per its norms  but want to explore  things without  boundaries  and  this  conflicting  state  gives an enough reason  for  people  to run a parallel  secret life with a clean existing  visible  life.

Fulfilment  of all basic needs should ideally take us to next level to do something  towards  the society  but with our goals so very much surrounding  our own bodily needs we seldom wish to walk  an extra mile to feel genuinely  thrilled  having worked  towards a social cause...

Therefore , at  every stage be confident  in your thoughts  and actions  to help  you  in living  a transparent  life as a concealed  secret life with  momentary  thrill will take you to a disastrous  future.

Take care.

Psychology of gifting!!

Gifting!
Something  we all do and also  receive... Ever wondered  why do we do  that???

A strange  thought  that  travelled  across my mind  as to  why and  how  this  custom  of  gifting  started??

At one point  I would think it was only a set custom  to gift but customs are also man made so the thought that leads  to such customs was worth the study.

The fact that  most  of  the population  experience  a happy  feeling  when they receive  any gift but over the period  this feeling  also leaves a stressful effect due to given reason that as....
Now a days  when corporate s have indulged into gifting  people with  free holidays, coupons, other facilities , its now become a mindset of many individuals  too who gift in anticipation  of any future benefit.

At times it would be replaced with an intangible thing like blessings, gratitude, token of appreciation  and a very sweet feeling  when you missed  those people at times.

I realised the ill effect when I  experienced  from a close  relative who seemed burdened  to  give  away customary  gift on  a said occasion  and made the receiver feel like a pauper... This disgust  was more  annoying  as it  murdered  the sweet feeling  of giving  away  the gift. Its not  therefore  mandatory  to like the gifting  process  but the lying  idea or feeling  associated  with it is more valuable  which should  be sustained.

I as a kid would always feel that non occasional  gifts was a sign that  the gift receiver was  missed  and  remembered  so much which is indeed a very touchy thought. I wish to continue  the practice to  if I  can gift casually,   but often struggle  to understand  if its the same  with others or its a mere  exchange. Nevertheless,  each individual  should  operate with their inbuilt  perception s about  this but having  a different  outlook isn't  as bad.

A thought  that  takes me deep into  this  is that  as humans  we are more  in love with tangible  things than intangible  like body  is more  taken  care of than soul and somewhere  just to work on the same principle  I  guess people back then ages ago might  have  started  to  give away a physical  thing accompanied  by those  deep feelings which cannot  be felt otherwise  or easily expressed in words.
And thus the tradition of  gifting  on various  occasions  would have begun...

To conclude, its not  the promotion  of gifting  that  I  am aiming  here but its a thought provoking  effort here to not crush the sentiments  for any inconvenience  felt to indulge into gifting... Because  in the long run people  don't  remember  what was gifted but always  remember  how and why was  it gifted(with what  depth of feeling).
Remember  Sudama's gift  to Krishna??? ... It was the intention  that  left its mark  not  the material.

So people ! don't  try to go out of the way to impress  people with expensive  things but make sure you have packed right emotions  in the gift!!!

Hey molestor!!!! You need treatment. ...

Its late already to touch upon this topic but better late than never!!!

As I was growing up I have had my part of wierd experiences with KNOWN PEOPLE who misbehaved thinking that under the tag of an ideal adult they could easily get away with the CHEAP and INHUMANE act of molesting.... and they are in the denial mode that they have. ...got away from that crime.

Basically,  people who get into such acts are suffering from a mental ailment where under the cover of  sophisticated citizens these individuals easily brush against the bodies of vulnerable people like small kids and women where the chances that their identity will be revealed are very feeble.

The very first episode of SATYAMEV JAYATE by Aamir Khan on Indian television shouldn't have come as a shocker if each one would peep within their own personna or their trusted people who show absolutely no apparent signs of being lusty but leave no chance to dance upon a given situation.

Having a sexual desire is natural,normal but to target these weak sections of society to fulfil that need is nothing but an insensitive act which reflects an illness at MENTAL LEVEL..

This illness is as common as diabetes or blood pressure or cholesterol issues which don't show any sort of abnormality but is surely unhealthy.

Why most of the population even if they don't believe in GOD will never kick an idol or holy book as subconsciously it generates a fear that this can turn into a curse like life events then why something that is a clearly an act of sin..... not understood? ??

The reason being among all other value education no one teaches the ill effects or harm caused to generation s after such crimes are conducted. Everything is revolving around SEX and MONEY  but still no one would take the responsibility to open up that area for discussion and inculcating right knowledge from its do's and don't s....The more closed this topic is kept more and more people sneakily get into such heinous acts without even understanding its filthy seeds being implanted at the subconscious level.... victims of such events either get into more dangerous crimes or an extremely complexed mental self which is an additional danger to the entire society. ..
A few minutes pleasure at the cost of harming someone at that deep level ...more dangerous at mental than physical is like contribution in increase in birth of criminal s in society. ...

Apologies to anyone reading this who under any influence has committed such offence.... try to reach out to those whom you have molested and beg for forgiveness as that can help them start their life without any prejudices. ..also any one vulnerable in any form ....learn to respect the human in that individual and stop yourself to take an undue advantage of the situation to fulfill all hidden lusty desires.....

Being a grown up adult is a role of responsible individual ....let our behaviour make people trust and believe that we deserve the respect of an older citizen.....

Old = BOLD ....let's unfold the truths of dating older men /women

Young girls getting attracted to older men has an old history and to name a few aspects that encourage such relationships are financial security, more matured mentally and sexually ,etc but the new tendency of men getting carried away by older women is what's worth peeping in for this day....

Like the two factors that were prominent in dating older men ...applies to older women more weight being given to the sexuality and approach they carry along.
JLo ,Demi Moore who ve had partners a way too younger to them say something bold about these women. ...their independent lifestyle and their emotional maturity plays a very vital role in attracting young men towards them. 

Men today are more liberal,open minded and less egoist which enables them to appreciate and look upon a lady achiever with respect and accept that as her ability. ..many a times the respect factor turns into emotional bondage and end up into physical encounters. ..but the hard fact is many a times it is sheer physical attractions that lead to being in relationship.

The focus here is not majorly on factors responsible for such ties but how far these relatrelationships survive ???

Statistically, all combination of relationships have their high and low numbers but such ones where too high age difference is the most disturbing truth in shattered lives.

Among all the juicy facts associated with older women. ..a bold outlook, a stable mindset ,an independent thought process and physical awareness of needs it surely sounds worth a try but but but.....life after sex..is what people never think of...

Is life after all those amazing explorations going to be worth sticking around with where goals ...life goals. ...soul goals come on surface..

Again,  talking about soulmates if one feels having found in one another (such odd combination s) is yet another topic to discuss about; but being into human form how sensible is it to get into a relationship where apart from a few enchanting factors to get you together there are hundreds more to get you apart??? Give it a thought.

The idea to elaborate and touch upon this issue was to make an effort to make people realise the grounded realities that isn't any fairy tale which can help in long lasting and happy survival of such relationships...

Thus. ...it  is very natural to get mesmerised into someone (most of the boys are in love with their pretty teachers during puberty. ...) it doesn't  mean that  it has to be carried forward to another level...it can create many disturbances to the existing life  for a zero future.....

Therefore...to all my lovely readers.....keep in mind :

Fall in love...don't get collapsed !!!!