As a teenager , I started to have my set of secrets right from my crushes to my friends relationships....Fortunately or unfortunately I never was in any relationship to feel the need for additional baggage of carrying secrets but now since last few years I was pondering upon a thought as to why was the need or why should people do that???
Now as a psychologist, when people open up to quite an extent , its so hard to understand that why having a parallel secret life commonly existing.
On a deep thought, I realized that its a personality issue at times and at times a confidence issue but the bitter truth is that this leads to many psychological and mental problems later.
I would often as a kid sneak out to watch movies if I wasn't permitted but have never really enjoyed watching with total fun as deep within guilt would keep me disturbed. The inner disturbances then would lead to looking out for further fun and recreation to wipe out the guilt. This can get into a viscous cycle of lying , getting disturbed and further lying to seek solution for disturbances...
Having realised this as an important reason for inner peace destruction I vowed to stay secret free but when I find others who do crazy unethical stuffs without any so called need just because having everything under the sky but without effort isn't giving them enough thrill, its sad.
We humans want to live in society as per its norms but want to explore things without boundaries and this conflicting state gives an enough reason for people to run a parallel secret life with a clean existing visible life.
Fulfilment of all basic needs should ideally take us to next level to do something towards the society but with our goals so very much surrounding our own bodily needs we seldom wish to walk an extra mile to feel genuinely thrilled having worked towards a social cause...
Therefore , at every stage be confident in your thoughts and actions to help you in living a transparent life as a concealed secret life with momentary thrill will take you to a disastrous future.