Parents ' hidden emotions and see that in your child's personality

Usually, there are parents who wish to give away everything  for their  children  and while they are  growing  up they  also  teach them the way to manage themselves  in society ..... But this is what  any parent  in general  feel....

But...
Are we all just general  parents.... Well! NO
We all feel we are among those special  bunch of parents  who will raise kids with perfection  irrespective  of whether  how normal  or perfect  we are!!!!
Its a nice thought but often  with acute alertness also there are these hidden emotions  within us that might not be spoken  but are reflected  in one way or the other..... That  has an immense  effect  on children.

A huge responsibility  of parenting  according  to parents  is to safeguard  their image or uplift their image  in society.
Using  children  as a medium to  either  gain that status or suppression  of their individuality  to maintain  that  status  which  parents have is  something  kids give back when they grow. An ideal example  being raising  a child with expectations  that our old age will be taken care of is something  that a child will also do but with an inner feeling that "I  have no option and have to bear with this"... Thus in both  the situations  it is  verbally  not  expressed but there's  a compulsion  reflected in both actions that  I  raise  you well today and you take care of  my  old age.....

I  couldn't  stop myself from  a keen observation  as to the very emotion parents  carry while conception  which also plays  a vital role in developing  those  hidden  feelings.... If a child is desperately  needed to either for  societal  sake as a married  couple  one  should  have, or that  now we need a fulfilling  time with  someone  we can nurture  or now I  can bring up another  life who needs care(adopted kids), etc these  thoughts  are never discussed  or even we aren't  aware of but if its more selfless the more humane values the child has... Very few people  adopt children  for giving  someone  else a life most adopt to have the pleasure  of  parenting  but nevertheless  it is more selfless than a conceived  child as one needs a very generous  heart to become  non biological  parents  and that's  the beautiful thought but if all the while parents  carry that  feeling  of giving  away  their  life  to a strange kid who will be a support  later will definitely  not turn out to  be as you  have expected....

I  kept thinking  about all different  parents and different  kids they have and made me wonder  about how such selfish  parents  have such humane kids and vice versa  but nevertheless  all mentioned  here isn't  a researched fact but a general  psychological  observation  which can  surely be challenged  and can have many many factors  involved  but it was a thought we can surely ponder upon...

Hey molestor!!!! You need treatment. ...

Its late already to touch upon this topic but better late than never!!!

As I was growing up I have had my part of wierd experiences with KNOWN PEOPLE who misbehaved thinking that under the tag of an ideal adult they could easily get away with the CHEAP and INHUMANE act of molesting.... and they are in the denial mode that they have. ...got away from that crime.

Basically,  people who get into such acts are suffering from a mental ailment where under the cover of  sophisticated citizens these individuals easily brush against the bodies of vulnerable people like small kids and women where the chances that their identity will be revealed are very feeble.

The very first episode of SATYAMEV JAYATE by Aamir Khan on Indian television shouldn't have come as a shocker if each one would peep within their own personna or their trusted people who show absolutely no apparent signs of being lusty but leave no chance to dance upon a given situation.

Having a sexual desire is natural,normal but to target these weak sections of society to fulfil that need is nothing but an insensitive act which reflects an illness at MENTAL LEVEL..

This illness is as common as diabetes or blood pressure or cholesterol issues which don't show any sort of abnormality but is surely unhealthy.

Why most of the population even if they don't believe in GOD will never kick an idol or holy book as subconsciously it generates a fear that this can turn into a curse like life events then why something that is a clearly an act of sin..... not understood? ??

The reason being among all other value education no one teaches the ill effects or harm caused to generation s after such crimes are conducted. Everything is revolving around SEX and MONEY  but still no one would take the responsibility to open up that area for discussion and inculcating right knowledge from its do's and don't s....The more closed this topic is kept more and more people sneakily get into such heinous acts without even understanding its filthy seeds being implanted at the subconscious level.... victims of such events either get into more dangerous crimes or an extremely complexed mental self which is an additional danger to the entire society. ..
A few minutes pleasure at the cost of harming someone at that deep level ...more dangerous at mental than physical is like contribution in increase in birth of criminal s in society. ...

Apologies to anyone reading this who under any influence has committed such offence.... try to reach out to those whom you have molested and beg for forgiveness as that can help them start their life without any prejudices. ..also any one vulnerable in any form ....learn to respect the human in that individual and stop yourself to take an undue advantage of the situation to fulfill all hidden lusty desires.....

Being a grown up adult is a role of responsible individual ....let our behaviour make people trust and believe that we deserve the respect of an older citizen.....

Today....is being a parent difficult or being a child????

PERFECT CHILDREN or PERFECT PARENTS? ???

A 16 year old comes and cries in front of me and while sobbing she complains how she isn't understood well by her mother.....

Often here when it comes to girls they start developing a gap with mothers  and mothers  with part ego and part worry are shattered with child showing indifference. ..

Similarly boys who again get into difference are diverted to peer groups with an effect of substance s getting them intoxicated. ..

These were some routine examples but having regular compliants of  rebellion attitude also gives rise to worry among parents. .

Having said all this. ..what seems more difficult? ??being parent or children? ??
Well definitely a tie but to be a child with mindless parents is definitely a curse....
No parent is evil especially when kids are concerned but like many other aspects a balanced parenting requires open mind and high level of acceptance.

From schooling to career parent's are competing amongst each other ...many a times it makes me wonder ,is it the child who is really of concern or is it your parenting that will be well appreciated with the childs performance. ...

Parents too ,being ordinary human at heart never realise when children become the objects of their unfulfilled aspirations and are unintentionally victimised to beat the million others to prove to be a good child. ..

It's like an implied game adults play using children as coins to prove themselves to be winners ...

Becoming a parent (whether it was planned or otherwise) is completely our responsibility but the child isn't our property ...they have an individual self which beyond a level should be allowed to learn with mistakes too. ..just stand by your child to guide them through at all important junctions. ...

Keep smiling!