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Thursday, September 24, 2015

Psychology of gifting!!

Something  we all do and also  receive... Ever wondered  why do we do  that???

A strange  thought  that  travelled  across my mind  as to  why and  how  this  custom  of  gifting  started??

At one point  I would think it was only a set custom  to gift but customs are also man made so the thought that leads  to such customs was worth the study.

The fact that  most  of  the population  experience  a happy  feeling  when they receive  any gift but over the period  this feeling  also leaves a stressful effect due to given reason that as....
Now a days  when corporate s have indulged into gifting  people with  free holidays, coupons, other facilities , its now become a mindset of many individuals  too who gift in anticipation  of any future benefit.

At times it would be replaced with an intangible thing like blessings, gratitude, token of appreciation  and a very sweet feeling  when you missed  those people at times.

I realised the ill effect when I  experienced  from a close  relative who seemed burdened  to  give  away customary  gift on  a said occasion  and made the receiver feel like a pauper... This disgust  was more  annoying  as it  murdered  the sweet feeling  of giving  away  the gift. Its not  therefore  mandatory  to like the gifting  process  but the lying  idea or feeling  associated  with it is more valuable  which should  be sustained.

I as a kid would always feel that non occasional  gifts was a sign that  the gift receiver was  missed  and  remembered  so much which is indeed a very touchy thought. I wish to continue  the practice to  if I  can gift casually,   but often struggle  to understand  if its the same  with others or its a mere  exchange. Nevertheless,  each individual  should  operate with their inbuilt  perception s about  this but having  a different  outlook isn't  as bad.

A thought  that  takes me deep into  this  is that  as humans  we are more  in love with tangible  things than intangible  like body  is more  taken  care of than soul and somewhere  just to work on the same principle  I  guess people back then ages ago might  have  started  to  give away a physical  thing accompanied  by those  deep feelings which cannot  be felt otherwise  or easily expressed in words.
And thus the tradition of  gifting  on various  occasions  would have begun...

To conclude, its not  the promotion  of gifting  that  I  am aiming  here but its a thought provoking  effort here to not crush the sentiments  for any inconvenience  felt to indulge into gifting... Because  in the long run people  don't  remember  what was gifted but always  remember  how and why was  it gifted(with what  depth of feeling).
Remember  Sudama's gift  to Krishna??? ... It was the intention  that  left its mark  not  the material.

So people ! don't  try to go out of the way to impress  people with expensive  things but make sure you have packed right emotions  in the gift!!!