STOP being that TEACHER.....

A school going kid or an ailing old man
Self proclaimed wise, a human creature
Ready to guide, lead and be a preacher
We seldom have learnt yet aspire to be THAT Teacher... 樂樂

Advises are for free, in fact it is the only thing given generously and abundantly to whoever and wherever... I am saying this when my profession is to only COUNSEL but yet this is the core truth we all need to accept.. I can only pass on my academic and experienced knowledge to people approaching me but no one has gained that supreme power to be a life guide to anyone... A simple fact being HUMANS are born out of HUMANS, A formation of cells but yet a DIVINE creation which cannot be captured into books and scriptures.

From the time we begin to read and write and in case of illiteracy, a growth in age, we assume that we have that special ability to teach others.

Teaching worldly matters is bookish knowledge which is learnt after gaining prescribed qualifications from man made universities and there's this tag of a TEACHER given... It is a Noble deed to teach children but NO ONE can possibly take the charge to teaching people LIFE LESSONS as these are those which each individual learns in their different ways.. Life lessons aren't same as virtues and morals and ethics... These too are transferable.... Life Lessons are those special things learnt via life events.

Its amusing to see those specially who are carrying immense weight of their self generated EGO s and SUPREMACY who take up this charge to teach people lessons... These unfortunate people take rejection and apologies way too seriously and march towards becoming a life teacher to someone to merely live peacefully in their self created bubble. If there would have been a vision to see things beyond, no one individual will try overpowering other come what may...

Its now hilarious to see people exploiting someone merely to feel a high to having made them learn something crucial... In fact, its a foolish act to feel high over fellow humans who have created disrespect towards that bubble owner and these so called learned, wealthy or high profile Someones are deteriorating in their own self image.

The practical examples of such dumb heads are destruction of something or someone physically, mentally, emotionally to win over that conflict or difference...
Acid users for rejection of an individual proposal...
Physical, sexual benefits for someone in need of job or favor
Monetary or financial exploitation in exchange of an apology or helplessness
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Practically, every one is trying to teach someone else that if he or she is good at exploitation, they are supreme and they better be respected... This is like Robbing Respect which is most difficult to earn but each one wants to SNATCH IT, FORCEFULLY ACHIEVE IT.... The foolish human kind, in the race to capture that RESPECT from fellow human beings are more and more indulged into inhuman acts to ONLY gain DISRESPECT....

In nutshell, we shouldn't condemn ADOLF HITLER, for he had the insanity to openly go brutal to gain the superficial GODLY power, we are even worse, under the skin of nobility, we are on a constant run to teach LIFE LESSONS to all those who are against our belief systems in most cruel ways that can literally make people stop believing in HUMANITY on the whole...

God bless these LIFE PREACHERS and save victimized students of such TEACHERS....

LET'S NOT TAKE THE CHARGE OF TEACHING OTHERS, IF WE CAN POSSIBLY LEARN SOMETHING FOR SELF, IT WILL BE MORE THAN SUFFICIENT.....

Explosion of exploitation!!!

SELF PROCLAIMED INTELLECTUAL, SELF PROCLAIMED SUPER HEROES AND SELF PROCLAIMED SPIRITUAL GURUS...

Its a explosion of Fake and superficial dramas all around.. Be it intelligence, be it relationships, be it emotions... All around there is this very weird ACCEPTANCE rush.. In fact its not even Acceptance, it is the rush to stand above  others...

Everywhere I turn my face, I see people exploiting someone for their selfish motives, very rarely I find people with mutual love and care where EMOTIONS play genuine role... Each one desires to make it big in life not to HELP others but to EXPLOIT others to merely feel powerful...

Girls have started exploiting their sexuality not for SELF SATISFACTION but for luring MEN and to get their material benefits ... Such sexual exploration isn't LIBERATION, it is sheer misuse of that Vagina and  Breasts....

Men, on the other hand are wrongly motivated in such cases with the myth that all around girls are there to be exploited if they are ambitious or not... Strategies differ as per the role she holds but basic mindset remains same...

Being powerful is a boon which is seldom used for human welfare, it is justified if misused for self pleasures and bodily pleasures even if it means to degrade another human being for the same.

It is heart breaking to learn that people put in tremendous hard-work​, energies, etc to get a position in life ONLY to sleep with anyone and everyone and considering this as a LIFE ACHIEVEMENT....

Sexual Liberation is an entirely different thing where two people  have consensual make out whether it is love or attraction but throwing weight of power and position, in exchange of any benefit if someone is made to give in Sexually or manually it is a filthy mindset and these can probably never get out of the self designed fictional pit where glamour is the essence and the reason which has blind folded them...

There's actually no SUPERIORITY complex existing​, it is INFERIORITY which with many personalities comes out as SUPERIORITY... If these nutcases are hypnotized, one can gather the level of low self worth these people actually have...

Anybody, who knows their self worth will never try proving it to others in any manner, the ones who need to are the ones who desperately need people to approve of them.. They are the ones who don't have an inner voice, depth and are mesmerized by the  power shower by similar kind of souls.

Academic excellence and high public profile has nothing to do with personal humanity laws which unfortunately are neither taught nor learnt.. Only people with immense SENSITIVITY FOR OTHERS can incorporate them into their personal lives... Which means...
INTEGRITY NEVER GOES OUT OF VOGUE....

People living in self created bubbles should get back to reality check and stop generalizing....

FINANCIAL levels cannot be defined as power imposing element
Liberation does not mean Exploitation of those who have Independent thoughts and
Life is more beyond SEX and MONEY....

Thank You

Are we ENVY savvy?

ENVY....

Again, an Emotion we all have within at different degrees

and in different areas but is definitely there....

As humans only because we find all those we are envious of better than us, we also want to be in an enviable position ourselves to feel superior to others... I realised this weird game of envy after being a victim of both.. Getting envy category and enviable category as well..

I realised few bitter facts of life... People who envy others the most are essentially and most frequently the near and dear ones who constantly felt as sailing in the same boat and now suddenly one among us is at the top level.... Another category also is very pitiable when people strive hard to become best only among their tribe and communities to walk tall and enjoy a dominant position...

Ultimately, its all a ego race where each ones circle of envy defines their mental growth...

For instance in teenage, one individual who is attracted by another but that another is in love with someone else and there this envy is so common as it is that individual who feels something I deserved is going to someone else.... Now when professionals enter a race, the competition exists between same level people and same company and in personal front with ex classmates who have reached a different level... Also while in marriage people flaunt with their spouses, Children, houses, and lifestyles....
Now, this does not end here, there is this race existing till one dies.. As the race of spirituality ini a country like India.... So basically, envy becomes an inevitable emotion from the time a child loses his /her innocence till death and in the process people forget their spiritual growth....

We are so much involved in comparison with few those around us that we forget the Universe we are entitled to.... We who carry the entire universe within this intangible thing called as SOUL, end up being worse than animals who are into foul play to beat another one who is same as us and completely different than us..

People often forget universal rules of growth and that is very very simple... If we grow with others, the growth is overall but if one grows crushing someone else, the growth is only superficial which ends up as miserable...

The part which makes us spiritual beings is ultimately only peaceful if there is uplifting of others involved, we all have designated assets, which will never go anywhere, then why do we put others down to bring about that temporary fulfillment within us...

I don't know how much I am out of this envy disease but I  heartily wish that I prevent myself on bringing down anyone to prove myself at any point.... This limits my reach as proving myself to a bunch of people isn't my goal.. My goal is my soul which wants to feel deeply connected to all...

The way to reduce the envy effect is to focus on self growth and timely self Introspection to mend our ways..
Take care

Mind your MIND.....

Mind it... If you are a puzzle lover, if you are a analytical  person, if you love to uncover the masks... You are also a strong candidate to CREATE PUZZLING  SCENES FOR PEOPLE....

To simplify this statement, the mentally charged up  people, the intellectual types  and  and all those  who are mind  readers by profession or passion, even an image conscious  personality, all these are  among the so called SMART  category  of population... Undoubtedly, they  do have this characteristic to touch upon a hidden or covered up areas of people's personalities... It is interesting  as that helps understand humans from various  perspectives  but this often  has a side effect on one's own personality to start playing  mental games with people.

I was always interested in peeping  deep into people's  minds to enhance my understanding as a psychologist  and help others  in their blocked areas and then when I  realised how people manipulate others and trap them  into a personal and professional bond.. I  was all the more conscious and careful to prevent myself in not  misusing that skill...

I  often tell my clients, that I  know their all weak areas, all vulnerable  zones  and somehow it is the key to their  mind.... But I  don't  mind tight  rope walking but stick to not  at all misuse their  information.. (which is why my prime goal is to not  make them dependent on me, they need to be with their own self, making decisions and following their hearts) ... This is the outcome of my spiritual  psychology  and not professional psychological practice.... Its painful to see so many people  being used up like puppets specially by those they trust the most as they are  victims to their loved  ones mind games...

Mind Games..
I don't want to speak for or against it but it is a practice people would  generally do in politics, business, etc basically at all material and superficial  levels.. But it kills me when I  witness people in huge numbers  getting victimized  by those  spiritual  gurus, motivational speakers and respected  class  of society who under the power and position of people respecting them they knowingly or unknowingly start misusing that for personal benefits...

I  brought upon this topic  to help people Introspect if they are either victims to someone's mental games or are they busy  playing  mental games for getting their ego satisfied...

After all these  mental techniques to get EGO satisfied , people run to seek  inner peace and there they are victims to someone else's  mind power.... Rather, why can't  we choose to be WHAT WE ARE, STOP DISPLAYING FAKE GOODNESS and be sure enough that people who love them will love them anyway... Why can't we examine our power of originality without these mental agony and MENTAL MISUSE.....

BEWARE and Be CAREFUL to MISUSE your MIND....

Its cruel to make people love you by fogging their minds... Help them see clearly and they  ll respect you for sure if not love you...

At times it's  important in life to choose where would you want to be in people's  life... In their  MIND or HEART???

Road to self(soul)

In conversation with myself, I find myself  getting immersed but I  often end up in complaining about  elements that haven't been very nice in my  life... I  love chatting with myself and often realise I keep caring a lot about my external  self, my body image, my professional image and my humane image... Ultimately it was all image... Image itself is the way one is being viewed, judged or perceived by self and others... This image issue was that dragon which never left me since  childhood and I  somewhere felt alienated within my own skin...

Time and again, this realization that I  need to be more in love with  myself, more  indulged into meeting  that interesting  real  me crept up and my efforts began in that direction ... I would walk a few steps and get lost... This happens every time I go on self search...

I  understand every destination has various routes.... The route I chose was in compliance with my personality and emotions and that was to reach myself via souls around me... I was very keen to touch  lives to search self and though it was a beautiful experience  I also noticed its limitations... In this process.. I would start imagining those souls as my destination and would later get disappointed as if its a mirage in the desert...

I can never and will never stop  connecting to beautiful people  around  me, each soul has a story to say that helps me see a new direction  but I  now do understand that sometimes.. Its foolish to get  stuck  at one resting point and get drowned into those emotions....

Due to my emotional bondage in this journey, many people do come across expecting  to bring about changes in me as per their thoughts  and that itself disconnects  me with them, as each one has their own chosen road to reach their soul... Any body causing hindrance indicates the lack of respect and there is the Signal that I  need to bypass certain  speed breakers  to not disturb  my journey or move ahead taking a bit of bumpy ride  and moving in set direction....

Thus, my road to my soul  seems most tedious, most  challenging and full of frictions.... Its like.. Something which is right under our nose is the most difficult to find.... People easily  reach moon, mars, etc where as the entire universe that is within is seldom found....

Be.. Beyond BED(SEX)

Being Beautiful.... is an asset, a god gifted quality  and being attractive  also is a physical trait worth flaunting but.....  Is that all????

Beauty, good looks, etc have always defined an individuals acceptance levels in society  but this is a first step to discover illusion ;as brainless beauty, inhumane beauty is WORTHLESS...

Many philosophies have discussed that beauty isn't a trait worth feeling arrogant about but the fact still remains that lay men and common men are hooked on to those physical appearances and are slaves to these  most foolish  quality people have naturally inherited....

The way beauty products, garment industry and artificial  beauty enhancers have captured people's minds, it leaves me with a bottom level question.... Is beauty  more  important than brains, humanity, generosity, etc....????

I encounter  few old acquaintances who start up with applauds over looks and seem concentrated over there and that gives me a thought as to whether these people can ever go beyond beauty and bed....

Beauty is mesmerizing.... I cannot deny but the real person beyond those looks is more important to be explored... Its no wonder that people who have hooked themselves around looks will never have a satisfied relationship  with anyone as what they run behind itself is such a temporary  element....

Its sad that those who are gifted with intelligence too have a deep craving for sexual encounters with a hot body and sensual beauty but this warmth of sexual pleasure is so temporary if that individual has no humane qualities to enhance their inner person.... Having such encounters only reflects that shallow intellect one possessed only to enjoy worldly pleasure... Its not wrong but having  centered around these is definitely indulging into stagnancy and fruitless life in the longer run....

For some people, their destination is bed... They enter into relationship with opposite sex to end up having sex.... This attitude is an object  oriented personality which has no or very little  room for emotions... Emotions, which can bind people for ages with or without physical touch.... I often feel sorry to have considered these kinds as intellectual folks again looking at their academic records but its the outlook that reflects their actual intelligence and inbuilt aura of connectedness....

Its hilarious to see how people question any acquaintance keeping their outer or inner qualities in mind and this necessarily becomes a deciding  area to whether we choose to stagnant our growth  with such people or move on and work towards self growth.....

Be a beautiful Person with beautiful heart....

Own your life.. Take the charge of your life....

Own your life... Yes we all think we do own our lives...

In a country like India, when KARMA is spoken about... Karma itself means we understand the responsibility of our acts and actions..... In such a scenario... Most of us are deprived and lack confidence to  consider this life as theirs....

The funny thing I notice is that often all those who haven't  had the courage to lead life their way put restrictions on others to not take a charge either... Likewise some who have rebelled their way out look forward to others rebelling like them....

All I have understood  from my life and observations from others lives is that ULTIMATELY, whether we act bold or cold we all do things upto a limit we can handle....

Life doesn't come with a manual.... No scripture can or is able to control humans except instilling fears and superstitions.... Liberal human soul cannot be confined to limits and do s and don't s.. Rather these limitlessness is what nutures this soul.. Despite  this known truth many of us can't  take the charge of our lives... We often pretend that someone else is holding our life strings and we are mere puppets...

I can buy this in a way where physically things  happen with humans at social and emotional plane which leaves them perplexed and wondering as to what happened to them and that's how their life shapes up.....

Events and episodes are probably not under control but perception of these into life shaping is definitely one can take a charge for...

We often do not feel the liberation as our individual personalities have hampered that wiring which would allow the smooth flow of freedom into us without guilt or fear...

For an instance... A parent would never enjoy completely if they seek happiness in a place where they are alone as they would be haunted by their children's  happiness being replaced over... Now.. The very fact... No individual who is deprived of fun can make others happy is easily forgotten as one gets into parenthood... Like this every role an individual plays can  prevent their liberty to freedom if there are strings attached  at a very very deeper levels... These people blame the system but are unable to detach themselves from their roles and then feel miserable to get victimized under set rules...

Thus, people do own their lives but  very few with the wealth of strong  mindset can maintain this life to its fulfillment and can take that charge of leading their lives on their terms....

Its better said than done... I  am too striving to walk on the path to free myself of attachments which bind me, control me and prevent me from my spiritual growth... It is a practice of attachment with detachment that is needed to evolve from the worldly pit....