Suicide vs Samadhi....

Suicide  commonly  heard  of.....
Samadhi referred as an ancient  act of highly  enlightened  people....

A question  arising  out of my  thinking  process, why was samadhi considered  highly respectable  where as suicide highly  condemned....???
Where as both acts bring about  an end to life.....

The little  knowledge  that I  have so far gave me an understanding  of the  two acts and their acceptability  or  otherwise  as,

Suicide  is an act which emerges out of a highly  dissatisfied  soul, someone who is not  able to cope  up  with   rejections  and  dejection  that life  events put them into.. These people are under the influence  of self hatred and hatred towards the life  creation and are in an urge to put an end to it all thus they take up the drastic  step of  exiting from life to teach people around  a lesson of life....
Therefore, SUICIDE  IS AN ACT OF ESCAPISM AND ABSOLUTE WEAKNESS OF MIND that  arises out of  acute  depression.....
The ironical  part here is  that one who  does  not understand  Life is set to teach others a lesson of life  by ending their own.....

On the other hand Samadhi, which too was bringing  about an end to life by many saints and holy  men was meant as RETURN TO THE ORIGIN... return to origin  essentially  meant that  merging with the nature or where  we belong.... The most  important  and prominent  difference  here is that these souls decide  to adopt samadhi as they  have achieved  supreme level  of  satisfaction  from life.... SAMADHI IS  TAKEN UP BY THOSE WHO HAVE REACHED THE  HIGHEST LEVEL OF  SATISFACTION AND ARE FULLY CONTENT.....
These people who have been  said to taken samadhi as a means to exit from life have initially  while  alive reached a mental state  of samadhi and thereby felt it was no point in physical  life....

A different  perspective  to it can be once an individual  has reached a point  of absolute  stillness would not  wish  to carry on with any act to survive physically  so as to get them away  from the state of stillness....

As a mental health  professional, I  have some conflicting  views on Samadhi in current situation ;as Mind  is the most  complexed thing  which has very little  clarity about most of the universal  facts and is a victim of almost all physical  agonies .... Therefore  under the  superficial  feeling  where a depressed mind  would claim to have fulfilled life duties and thus enter samadhi is a little  hard to believe...

Meditation  and the eighth stage  of yoga which takes the mind to the absolute  balanced  state is indeed an art to  practice.... A state of stillness where  the body  is only performing its routine  acts where mind  is totally unaffected is what is the  state of samadhi one should strive to  achieve.... This stage is the highest  level of spiritual  intelligence  which can tune an individual  to not get disgusted of physical  life and neither  get involved in any physical  pleasure.... Infact, it is a state of happiness  that is felt  under any given  condition.....

Having  said that  keeping  up with life  could very much also result  in physical  ailments  that can result  in acute pain and bodily suffering  and if an individual  can maintain  mental stillness  then, it is in true sense an achiever of Samadhi  at spiritual  level... As atma samarpan should not involve bodily negligence  as it wasn't  an individual choice  to take birth so should death not be a given choice either???
This life is a learning experience of soul  at all levels which also includes stages  of suffering  towards the death....

If life has nothing  to contribute  towards  society  then perhaps  it has something  to teach  the soul within  and thus is the  unique  life given to each of  us in our own personalized  gift  wraps which we find surprisingly  good  and bad at different  times ....

Take care....

Compete and compare..... Enter the greed breed...

Compete??? *
For??????

A particular  school  of thought  says competition  is healthy.... Indeed.. But there  are given conditions  under which they  are healthy..
Like....
Discovery  of the  best  of one's  abilities
Eliminating  the laziness within
And an urge to build up self confidence...

Apart from these, there is no individual  benefit  to be competitive.... On the other hand if the above  mentioned  goals  are achieved ... Then competition  should be with  ONLY SELF....
But.. Sadly... We humans forget the essence  of competition  and  soon cross that  thin line of competition  and encounter  COMPARISON... this is the zone people should never ever enter....

The killer of humanity, downfall of virtues  and  inviting  restlessness  are all this area can give us.....
Comparison , therefore  is like self  inflicted  torture  and life long  companionship  with anxiety..

I  see people  coming  to  me with  major issues  and when it's  cause is boiled  down, it reflects  that it was an unsaid comparing  trait which  plays  the  culprit.

Again  the sad part here is people are seldom interested  in comparing  themselves  to enlightened  people or humble  and modest population  who have  gained  immensely  but are grounded from the core... The reason being that  doesn't  give others a JEALOUSY  FEEL and  the mediocre  self  of humans  only race the ones who  are in possession  of all sorts  of material  things to gain that  extra attention....

Having  said so it is  easier  to gain  material  happiness  if not by hardwork and integrity  then by cheating  and immorality  thus all are engrossed in that competition  followed  by comparison  to achieve that mind-blowing  high ranking position in society  with all eyes following  them and  that is the goal people have set...

Whereas to achieve  the eternal happiness  it involves  high amount of self study, introspective  attitude and competition  with self at a constant  pace which is not attention  gaining  and people don't  feel its worth till..... All that  comparisons put them into a never ending  state  of Anxiety  and  depression......

Folks, it is therefore  very important  to cautiously  compete and not let go off our peace within as it is not sensible  to gain attention  while loosing  inner harmony....

Most  people  who are unfortunate  victims of this  competition  followed  by comparison  are those who start having a high self image where  by they cannot tolerate  anyone  else doing better than  them in all feilds ...

I know of  college toppers, millionaires and most  affluent  people being victimized  by the disease of COMPARISON  as they seek to achieve a perfect picturized life and cannot come in terms with what  life has to give them in their  journey....

Self help tip:

A simple and spiritual  way  to help  overcome  any distress caused by life events and dissatisfied  feeling  is to understand  as to how any episode  of life has contributed  in enrichment  of the soul within... Which means how refined have you become  with a blow is something  to be cherished  rather  than cribbing.....

Stay calm...

Sadistic ?????? Whyy????

SADISTIC  PERSONALITY  DISORDER......

Its a personality  issue which is very common  but very difficult  to be revealed to people around....

Many of us are or closely  associated  to someone  like  that..... How many of us really understand  the  seriousness  of this disorder????

People who have a personality  where they cannot come in terms with  their  past agony or  those who have repeatedly scratched their hidden emotional wounds and have developed  a vengeance  for the  society  in general  but often end up victimizing known people by causing harm to them.....

Among such  people  are those who create misunderstanding  between  people, to physically  harming someone, or making  someone  feel extremely  worthless, etc.. These culprits  are many  a times not  even aware of their problems but can be viral to  the society  as one wounded  person  if finds solutions  in hurting  others , this act will continue  to spread  and create a society  filled with  sadistic  people around....

A simple  way to diagnose  this is to spot a trait  in kids... If they  start enjoying  and finding  ultimate  pleasure  by bullying  or  hurting  other children, this  can take  them towards  committing  heinous  crimes  as adults  as they have learnt that as a method to please themselves......

A simple  exercise here for each one of us is to sit quietly and  think, be it individual  or  communal  or  national..... If we heart of hearts enjoy any  inhuman act and  are convinced  that the  victim deserved it.... WE ARE SADIST AS WELL.....

We are no one to judge whats wrong  and whats right to  levy punishment  as individuals.... All we can as humans very  well judge and conclude is that.... Any act that would  give us pain should  definitely  not be levied upon  others... AS SIMPLE AS THAT.....

Let's  get over our inbuilt  anger towards any sex, community  or nation to stop  enjoying  cruel  acts as a means  to teaching  lessons  to one another..... Getting  over sadism is a huge RELIEF  to SELF  THAN OTHERS.....

Why did I meet YOU?????

WHY DID WE MEET?????

I don't  know how many of you have ever wondered as to WHY we particularly  come across only some selected  people where as this world is overly populated  and we are social  beings......

I  get to hear this question  from one person  from a couple who is emotionally  devastated  on breaking  up of  that  relationship..... I  personally  had my answers to those questions  but was a very difficult  task to explain  it to them.....

I  realised  that with each individual  in our life... Whatever  role they play... These people have met us for a reason.... The reasons  are given emotional  names  called LOVE, FRIENDSHIP, HATE, ACQUAINTANCES, etc but each has something  to contribute  in our  lives....

Sometimes, we meet someone  with a specific  reason.... It can be purely professional  and can turn out to  be a close  emotional  bond.... Some can be mere co workers, university fellow  student  or  a teacher.... But apart  from these statuses  some can  have a lifelong compassionate  relationship..... While some met with a reason  to work with, spend  life  with, etc could emerge as someone  who would  carry bitterness  all life..

Among all these  varieties  what  amazes me is that whether we like it or  not these different  categories  have ended up banging into us for a REASON.....

The REASON  isn't  too complicated  its something  we all ideally have to do as humans but as we do not simply because  of our never ending list  of  fulfilling  desires of material  things.... That  thing is... SELF SEARCH.... INTROSPECTION...
Ideally, if that  is done  we are well aware of the balancing  act of self  irrespective  of who ever we meet but IF someone  is having  some  different  effect on us  be it Good or  Bad.... It is a signal to learn something  enchanting  about our inner self.....

How do we do that??

1. Think of any xyz individual  in your life
2. Recollect  your initial  feeling  after meeting  that  person  for first time.... If a family  member  think of their  first  time heart touching  episode with them (good or bad)
3. Think of yourself as a person  in every  way... Good  and worse  NOW
4. Again  go back  to analyse  how were  you different  then....
5. Now try to figure out how  this individual  has affected you to what  extent  and  which  area of  your personality  is changed due to presence  of that  person....
6. Lastly, if the change is positive (which in most  cases would be), it will be more  enhanced then you were  probably  in that experience  to gain this  quality.. And if the change was  deteriorating  then it is time for you to distance  yourself and proceed towards  more positive  people......

This is not a very satisfying  way that  I  could have explained  but it was  a small  effort made  to probably  help some of you to perceive  your issues  from  a different  angle......

Think about it..... If any queries... Feel free to write to me at...
 
kmp6501@gmail.com

Take care....

FALLING IN LOVE or an ACHIEVEMENT??

Falling for  someone at a go can be due to many factors...
Either  it was the physical  charm
Or
Sense of showing  empathy  and understanding
Or
Intelligence
Or
Success Story
Or
Style of talking, smile, etc

It could be either  of above, all or a combination  of said traits  which  can contribute  towards an initial  attraction towards  any individual.... That is a very normal phenomenon , the  challenge  is the next stage...
Whether you  Desperately   want that person  to be in your  life as you think  you deserve  her/him...
Or
You just need to make an impression  so that that individual  falls for  you
Or
You  are a sadist and you  want her/him to  be emotionally  dependent  on  you
Or
YOU TEST YOUR INBUILT ABILITIES THAT WHOEVER YOU THOUGHT OF; YOU CAN GET INTO A RELATIONSHIP  EASILY AS YOU HAVE THAT CHARM.....

More  or  less majority  of people fall in either  of the  categories  when they say they fell in love... The category  that  took my attention  today was the  last one...

These individuals  are those who take  it up as a defeat and a challenge  to seduce the  tough  one who caught  their  eye.... Apart from those n number  of  others who were in so called love  with such people, their focus remains  on the one who seems not impressed  enough or  carried  away enough by their self believed charm.....

Its surely a human psychology  to get more attracted to something  we are denied .... But leaving it at the point  where its made clear  that opposite  person  isn't  really interested  is what  is ideal...  But NO, many of us want to prove it to ourselves  that its a wrong  decision  to reject you and thus all crazy attempts  at playing various  mind games to attract that someone....

Is this not wasting  time?????
If thought of it practically, it is satisfaction  of  our Ego that  will make us lure and seek  someone  who cares a damn..

People need to develop  an understanding, a maturity  that someone  who truly will appreciate  you as a person  will not need you playing  out these  tricks... It will be so very natural..

The problem  here is, the insecured self that  we carry, we become impulsive  and anxious  for that individual  and start making them as a life goal.....

I  can give a benefit  of doubt  to  young teens doing such things  but  what takes me by surprise  is that all age group  especially  educated, classy  type are more into this business...

Well, all I  can end with is, if this mental  and physical  effort  be done for higher spiritual goals, it will bring about a true sense of SELF ACHIEVEMENT...

TAKE CARE

Transparent SELF results in peaceful SOUL ....

Transparency  is a term which only  is used to explain  kids  as opposed to  opaque.... It should be rather explained  as Absence  of  Clarity.

I get pained  to write  about  Transparency  when I  realise  that No one including  myself  is  able to adopt  that totally  in life... Once as a child and a teenager  when being transparent  often put me in dilemmas  and the shrewd  environment  would  whisper  that  this  transparency  is not  beneficial.... Probably , materially  it is the  call for the  day but is it really helping  us at depth????

It is annoying  to me when I  am asked to reflect  half truth or  when its expected  of me to do so and this feeling  makes me  more miserable  when I  put myself in the shoes of an audience  who witness half reality  and is suppose to act likewise....

I have always  vouched for complete  clarity but society  acts as an obstacle  in revelation  of an honest say.... Its not  essential  that  honesty  will always be appreciated  but selfishly  too that  is THE ingredient  to PEACE WITHIN....

Commonly people  start to give excuses and  say half truth in most cases with an inbuilt  fear that either  that Fact would be misused or will be misinterpreted  which might  dent the well made societal  image.... Thus,  lying has become a Cosmetic  to  hide the shady areas of self but it is to  be given a positive  perspective  to  encourage  truth.... If people don't judge  one another  and don't  have relationships  pre conditioned,  it can help people in start attempting  to adopt honesty....

I decided  to follow  this after facing a turbulence  within  and this path might  not  have given me great material  success but I  have built a very honest relationship  with my fellow people  a major  part which now  includes  my clients... When they approach  me with a said  issue, I  admit to them  if I  was too victimized  with such problems  at a given point  and  it has only  helped both  me and them in acceptance  and treatment  of the  problem... Its  therefore  not  wrong  to project  ourselves  as an ordinary  human with  all routine  issues.... Its a myth that  people have  carried  within  that helping professional  can never undergo  a difficult  time.... Its more of a lie, a deception  and that might add to glory but not a long lasting  impact.....

With my experience  at personal  and  professional  front, I  genuinely  insist  that  although  a tough  path to  follow , if transparent  thought  processes  are adopted it  can save people  from many future manipulations and can help in getting  trained to having  a more open  and non  judgemental personality  to  enhance relationships...

Stay peaceful, stay happy......

Soul- mate( mating of souls)

Souls ????  
Like I always say is thought of only when an individual  dies.....  The very thing that makes us what  we are is talked of when we aren't.... Isn't  it ironical?

I always  wondered  at the term  called soul mates  and it somewhere only  pointed  out towards  the life partner... As a fact life partner  is seldom  a soul  choice, its a practical  choice  and a societal need..... This does not  mean that all couples are into a compromised  relationships  but there  are very rare cases which are soul connected....

I was more and more  curious  to understand  that  if life partner  is a soul mate then why multiple  relationships  to find that  missing part within..

There are people  with excellent  sex life with their spouses also, keen enough on their hunt for other partners.... What  is that  missing  area within which pulls one towards others whilst in a permanent  relationship?????

Every individual  here born with a soul  and body... The bodily  needs are so much focused  upon all their  lives  that  the vaccum at  soul level is still not filled... Its basically  this body that should using  its feeling  capacity that  needs to find soul satisfying  mate and enhance the inner self...

In this population  of millions  and  trillions  how will anyone  ever find that.????

I am dealing with multiple cases where there are weird  ways in which people  have banged into one another and are pulled into each other.... Not only  that.. These people have contributed  excellently in uplifting  each others lives and have made them understand  the real facts of life.

People  who are attracted  to each other feel they have met their soul mates but its often a superficial  belief  that  captures minds.. It takes  a while  to understand  if that  individual  is a soul mate????

Typically  not  easily  there is a possibility  for these  two  to get together...
There are n number  of hurdles  and  facts that  will cause hindrance  in their meeting.
The typical  thing here is  there is a selfless attraction towards that person and it's  not  logical  by  any means..
Also , these two once having met  will look out for  reasons to keep in touch... Will not leave their side.. (could be in fighting  mode too)

Last but not the least  after encountering each other.... All other relationships and partners (if any)  cannot create that impact.... There is an unsaid realisation  of the final search being accomplished....

This might sound  absurd to many  readers and I  respect  each ones views but at least a point to ponder here will be why after a completely  settled life  too there is an unknown  restlessness  within most of the  people?????
Take care.....