Sexualilty (A divine power of women)

Women, most irresistible creation of GOD...
WOMEN, aren't only irresistible for the many mysterious traits she has but mainly for her power of SEXUALITY.

From ancient times until today, many things might have changed, emerged into progressive ways but the magical power of women's sexuality has always been immensely powerful...

In the divine union of Shiv and Shakti too, woman was termed as SHAKTI, with the power to create that DIVINE UNION, that Oneness...

Whether be it symbolic representation in the form of shiv ling or be it sacred sexual union, it is the oneness which is the prime motto of each individual...

Sex is a mechanism through which that divine oneness can be achieved but how many of us have been able to understand the meaning and essence of SEXUAL UNION...???? Hardly anyone...

Women, an important part in the divine process can initiate the entire magic by here mere presence, her aura, her SEXUALITY...The magical movement within a man is natural when he happens to witness woman's sexuality but the wonders take place when she too is equally eager to merge into that man.... This is a deep process but who has the time and patience to dwell into this beautiful truth...

An individual can have sex with many but that ONENESS can be felt with only one... Thus, there is widespread vogue of having multiple sexual partners and yet on the go, on the move to get something more fulfilling... This syndrome is typically when there is no indepth feel of the so many sexual unions and there is still a wait to feel COMPLETE..

Its not a big deal to get physically involved with people, especially its a very easy task for females if they decide to MISUSE their very sacred power of SEXUALITY...

Marriages in general have taken place using a Man's earning capacity and a woman's Sexuality.. It is many a times a planned move on women's end to manipulate their powers to seduce and trap men.. It could be either to satisfy their material needs or to tame men into safe guarding their security issues but in general, this sacredness is misused to great extent and thus there is hardly any authenticity in the relationship in a deeper level.. Such relationships can call for inner restlessness and mishaps..

Women do realize that they have this immense power in their sexuality but unfortunately it is MISUSED to their limited superficial needs and is grossly shallow minded trait to having exploited such a powerful gift into random uses...
In ancient times, long before civilization women would use this power into creating societal peace by denying their men Sex until they cease their war and conflict with other fellow beings....

If women, can  contribute to such great levels in making society a peaceful place by using their sexuality, why are women today becoming a double standard being to create chaos in surrounding and satisfy their personal needs and egos which are not even long lasting...

The very sacred element now is hence condemned and not respected enough... The sacredness of sexual powers need to be consumed for a deeper, soul satisfying reasons more than a mere physical satisfaction and this is where its divinity lies....

Its a blessing which is cursed for its manipulative use and this is sinful...

T O U C H (E').... me or not... !!!!!

A 'TOUCH'...

The very first meaning that we can think of is a Physical Touch.... But let me highlight other versions of "Touch "...

The very common and most general used interpretation is the physical touch.. One person or one individual feeling the touch of some other individual as an intimate gesture or a friendly greet or an angry blow or just a comforting or security generating hug or blessing seeking humble touch of the feet, etc
Physical touch is a direct way to pass across a non verbal message of the present emotion towards one another...

Again, Indian culture always encouraged more of NO TOUCH greeting styles by Joining two hands with a NAMASTE... which has its own meaning and importance but the world in west always greeted formally with a shake hand and informally with a hug or hi fi...

Nevertheless, this (physical) touch quickly and precisely indicates the hidden vibes of individuals.. Like I personally don't mind shaking hands but I sometimes don't have quite a comfortable feeling after certain shake hands... Hugging still isn't my style and especially when people try showing that warmth when I resist such greetings, that's OFFENSIVE... On the other hand, I am only physically comfortable expressing love towards my babies.. Which doesn't mean I keep hugging them and suffocating them with my love... I only at times prefer to sit next to them holding their hands and that too gives me such immense pleasure.... 

The next touch being Emotional touch.. This touch is not as commonly noticed as physical touch but is definitely more impactful then physical touch as that is a touch without a touch.. It is that impact one can have on another with their humbleness, helpfulness, kindness or may be smartness... These individual traits leave an impression which emerges out of their way they simply behave.
Parents, siblings, relatives, friends etc and all those who are important and don't share an intimate touch fall under this category, thus we are emotionally touched by many people in our lives... This touch goes a long way but has various categories and levels which is different with different people.... Sometimes we tend to start having an emotionally touched feeling towards complete strangers and that is where the profound and most amazing touch emerges...

Spiritual touch...
This is the deepest touch, a touch where no physical thing can ever penetrate and leave an orgasmic feeling.... This is rare and magical... This kind of feeling can emerge even between two known individuals who realize after a long time of their acquaintance when they look upon one another in a more profound manner... Which means.. There are no expectations and no framework of their relationship but they have a very deep impact on one another.... Such profound touch is a SPIRITUAL TOUCH and that's where life starts its transformation... Its a realization, an understanding of self which wasn't possible without this individual's impact and that is what makes theirs a very different connect... Such individuals may apparently cause immense disturbance, a very strange restlessness but leaves us with a deeper meaning of ourselves, our problems and life.... It becomes so much more significant if these individuals unintentionally end up disappointing us too and that too wouldn't make us despise them... Such an impact is ONLY FELT... cannot be explained but a strongly FELT...
TOUCH...

Have u ever felt touched in this manner???? If yes, Feel the experience, its divine...

Undressed by words????

ITS ONLY WORDS...
AND WORDS ARE ALL I HAVE
TO TAKE YOUR HEART AWAY....

lyrics of a track by Boyzone (a musical group) is surely insightful to peep within the psyche of someone who has been a victim of words being showered upon...

Most of the Love Stories start with glances but what takes it to a next level is usually words...
A very interesting episode I want to quote here is of my two friends, of which when the guy wanted to officially propose that girl.. He chose to write her a letter and it had all possible bollywood content of wooing a girl and it seemed quite a puppy kind of expression to us, we were expecting this girl to probably react in a similar way but astonishingly, she was super impressed and was instantly in love with him.... What made the shift happen was the words that penetrated into her mind..

Thus, once a couple is in Love... There is an intense feeling within which virtually makes them transparent to one another not only mentally but also physically long before they actually go physical.. So the magic of words results in mental to physical penetration without bodies actually working on it....

Words thus can indeed penetrate minds and just like a simple difference between consensual sex and rape... Words can also brutally make someone feel undressed if they are misused...

The technical way of words hitting others remain same but using this strong weapon called words can result into severe damage of someone's self respect miserably good enough to virtually kill a relationship or humanity...

People who claim to be straight communicators can often commit such crimes at great levels.... Reasons being either to outsmart others,  to win over an argument, trying to be humorous at the cost of others, an intentional attempt to insult someone, etc etc.. These are the verbal rapists who love to undress others dignity in public or private....

Its very easy for me to identify such people coz I was a ruthless person when it came to putting down people with various intentions at various occasions merely by using blunt communication techniques but those were the days I was a victim of very poor self esteem and with a torn self confidence, I would do that to stay in the self created bubble of being a head strong person... It was a gradual realization and its late but I am glad I do realize my inability then to Respect Human Dignity....

But, there's another category too, who again on achieving academic​, material and social high do start looking upon others with a superior feel... This attitude too at times can give rise to creation of pseudo power within and an assumption that they are qualified to pass disrespectful comments and jokes....

Sense of humor, is a beautiful thing... I personally love this trait in people and its great to have an intellect to be witty, to crack practical jokes but a very delicate line here is often crossed over as... Its a known fact that Sense Of Humor needs to be excersized at the cost of disrespecting someone.... Its very important to realize and understand how is that victim taking such jokes as many a times, it might lead to soft insult via humour....

To wrap up the write up.. I only wanted to highlight this sharp weapon called words which can  make and break relationships and can leave one feeling either highly Respected or Disrespected with a permanent impact on human psyche....

To conclude .. I want to use this platform to apologize to all those to whom I have intentionally or otherwise been a medium for making them feel bad or miserable by my incorrect usage of words...

Thank you....

Sexual Repression gives birth to Vulgarity.....

This is a controversial topic in Indian Scenario where every mind is thinking about SEX but prohibited to talk about it... The society is conditioned since generations to remain sexually repressed under the cover of CULTURE...

Molestations within the families and family friends, brushing of bodies against privates, getting erection by mere sight of cleavage and fantasizing kinky sexual actions are all results of SEXUAL REPRESSION....

No particular gender is to be blamed here, it is the imposition of such guilt stricken thoughts that has bought this society to its threshold and now more and more people are out with a rebellious attitude towards breaking free this culture cage.

Culture should not be  forced stopping of something that's a natural flow but channeling the flow in right manner....

Let's imagine, a person deprived of food and water in the name of fasting without his own will and wish... He /she will either sneak out and eat and drink or if under no such option will snatch it to satisfy self..
Many a times, its not real hunger or thirst but inbuilt anger that plays the culprit.

We are blind followers of Religious practices and more dangerously its preachers... Weak minded people who can follow another fellow human being without using self gifted intellect is bound to be imprisoned by so called culture cage. Scriptures are also available in versions of different people and we take them as GOD'S statements... An human at its own SENSITIVE level, with a clean Conscience is far above and far learned than any of the said books... But the point is we are taught to listen to others but self.

Sexual thoughts and needs are basic needs of every individual... To prevent misuse and over indulgence into sexual issues we groom our children to not even mention it or talk of it.... The more we push them away the more they are desperate to know and get involved... Children sneak out to sexual acts because they cannot even talk about it... And that becomes a crime...

We have many so called cultured population within our society who never talks about sex only THINKS about it... And they are the ones highly dominant in their own sexual  life, who can only interact with said opposite sex with a complete vulgar mind and has to remain absolutely alert in keeping up that super cultural image all the time.

I am not promoting sexual talks by hitting on to this topic, my aim here is to bring about an awareness that what we think is culture is actually the cause in creating sexual desperation among the population.

There is a category which is  Maniac... These people are soaked into sexual thoughts 24X7,like those people who are obsessed with food inspite of having it in abundance... (they are excluded from this condition)

There's definitely a line, a limit to everything but here we are trying to deprive people of their basic needs under the name of culture and that is leading to many mental issues.

The kind of cases I have recently, it is more of a liberated lifestyle people are seeking... People are rebellious in taking a risk of their settled lifestyle just to experiment and indulge into a life where there are no limitations....

This urge is generated due to over prevention of natural needs and desires... If giving complete liberation is risky during teens (which is risky) then there should be proper communication and exchange of information from adults in the family to help lead a sexually healthy life for coming generations..

Even, open sexual talk at times can help in venting out of many risky underlying subconscious desires and can help in dealing with self created sexual feelings and can take a call between ethical and unethical moves.

I was wondering, why in our surrounding people are over protective for their women folks but drool over Sunny Leone s nudes and are all over porn sites..... It is that unsaid sexual streak within which gets into a desperation.... Culture I believe wouldn't allow these traits as well....

Culture would be.. Under closed doors, without any supervision,  if two sexually attractive strangers can  sit, glance, express in words about their attraction yet remain poised and calm only because they are committed to someone else and they choose not to be infidel.

Who can do this... Can be truly termed as cultured.... That's what I define culture as...

****Apologies if I ve hurt anyone but my purpose was general awareness ONLY not targeting anyone in particular ***

So, YOU DON'T SAY.... NO????

Oh boy! You couldn't say NO????

This situation is faced by many who are incompetent enough in saying an ASSERTIVE "NO"....

NO... Is not essentially a negative statement... We have been conditioned in a manner where we are trained that if we say NO it will be considered as a negative remark and will be a patch on the image....

Indians specially lack the art of assertive communication... To the extent, they can neither talk assertive nor accept assertive statements... To them people with assertive communication are rude and blunt.. But the very art of communicating with offence free assertive communication is to be PRACTICED and thus implemented.

We Indians are amazing at two ways of communicating.... Sarcastic and passive aggressive (diplomatic) way to communicate..... Psychologically, these are both termed as NEGATIVE COMMUNICATION PATTERNS.... The positive communication is Assertive communication which essentially has these features :

1.I respect my judgment or opinion or view

2.But,I also respect your opinion equally....

These are the underlying beliefs to adopt in assertive communication...

Thus, in a given situation when you are offered a lift from a colleague or an acquaintance where one isn't comfortable accepting it.. A straight NO is indeed RUDE, but saying YES initially and then when you are awaited you VANISH or give a lame reason is even more RUDE... infact, it is more INSULTING then even a straight NO...
in such cases specifically, Assertive Communication is a win win situation for both.... Saying something like, 'Thanks but I am not comfortable in accepting the lift... I am genuinely thankful for the offer'

This is being HONEST to SELF, HONEST to Others and giving due respect to the person/offer/emotion you are rejecting....

People who often either chose to say a YES for everything just to avoid further arguments and negotiations and to escape any communication error simply take care of the immediate situation by saying YES for anything and everything and eventually don't even bother to stand by it....

Such people are INSENSITIVE to their own apprehensions and discomforts and RUDE enough for others as they seldom realise the impact of the FAKE YES which meant a clear NO....

It is a need for each one of us to be liked and accepted by others but being liked temporarily is indeed a A foolish act where more dislike is generated towards the end... People who generally are not fond of their own self will end up into such hypocritical behavior...

Human beings should be primarily sensitive to  their own emotions and then towards others... Such people have fake relationships as they have been fake all their lives... They have unintentionally resorted to FLIGHT MECHANISM where they see a temporary solution to every situation by saying YES and they later elope with their confused state of mind...

People with this trait leave sufficient room for further communication with people by being GOOD ON THE FACE but they lose respect which is the essence of every relationship.... These escapists generally have a troubled inner self and are far away from inner peace.. These type of people are prone to hyper activity and impulsivity as a side effect to have victimized self with so many confusions and conflicts...

Let's learn the repercussions of practicing to become ASSERTIVE...

1. Initially one might end up being blunt and too straight with voice modality and emotional outburst.

2.might have to face allegations of being
rude and insensitive but there's a room for explanation if there's HONESTY...

3.MOST IMPORTANTLY..... There's no mental burden to having lied to someone and a deep relief to listening to your wish and need...
This is the biggest benefit that is derived out of ASSERTIVE COMMUNICATION that you have chosen to respect your inner desire and also not kept someone in the dark...

Assertive Communication requires a COURAGEOUS mind and a BEAUTIFUL heart...

Love you all.... Please don't fool around with yourself...

Blue Rose LOVER!!!!

People in love usually exchange rose at least once in their life... Especially RED ROSE which symbolizes LOVE is most enchanting to love birds and they go ga ga over it... As teenagers , that is the love most of us experience and admire but there are flavors and colors of love at every stage and age....

Rose days are being celebrated in every corner of the world where people can express their feelings in different ways.. Like red denotes love, white symbolizes peace, yellow indicates friendship, pink for like, etc... Apart from these not many colors in roses are common especially in Place that I reside, so wouldn't be much aware of its color and significance....

Its an objectified way to express emotions at the end of the day but in real life there are people in each category that exist.... There would be people we only like or admire, some we really love and want us to love back, some we are plain acquaintances with, some we despise, but my favorite category is the one which is not known to anyone but self...

So many people I know have that secret love within which lives in them and often never dies.... That's not always because it was difficult to manifest that love but because it was selfless in nature....

Blue is the colour that's cold, gloomy, and desire less.... But its a color that seems peaceful too... Any shade of blue, the most vibrant one too cannot create anxiety within... Such is the place we have for someone in our lives and that's our SELFLESS LOVE...

This relationship might be impossible to surface on the societal fronts but this is the one that's deeper than anything else... I can almost relate to the spiritual element with such relationship where the blue rose lover is unaware of your deep love, zero expectations and yet inseparable part.... The most amazing part here is both these people are inseparable for each other but least dependent on each other as well....

We all might have carried on such relationships for ages and yet not known the power and pleasure to be into this as the strong selfish qualities in us only attract us towards those where we get something in return...
This is a human tendency but ultimately the spiritual self wins over.. If not now towards the fag end....

BLUE ROSE LOVER, is that spiritual love which never lets go off you, gives pain only to get a deeper understanding of self and has incredible intensity.... Have you figured out your blue rose lover?????

Toxic Relationships....!!! (Take a call)

I am wondering, how did I take so long to write something on toxic relationships... When now I open my mental eyes to witness so many I have pulled on for such a long span of time....

I have this weird habit of giving huge benefit of doubts to almost all the people I know, the end result was not bad when my personal growth was concerned, it did reflect a lot of things I needed to change in myself but somewhere in personal front when my close few were concerned some being relatives and some very close friends I was still emotionally getting harmed.... I did blame and worked consistently on my EQ(Emotional Intelligence) levels to bring about a peaceful state within but still something was a miss.

It was then when this insightful thought came up and I realized that I was completely unaware that I was holding on to TOXIC relationships with way too many people.

Like there's this relative of mine who herself has a very very low self image but will not hesitate to put me down when I myself sportingly can crack a joke on self... Similar is a so called VERY GOOD friend who will only and mostly indulge into conversations when she puts down other people criticize or condemn their actions and simply NAG, again an inevitable lady who can only self pity.... Surrounded by people like these, even if there's nothing sad happening in my life, I would be subconsciously pulled into their negative stride..

Such characters are there everywhere, but because of those cultural values instilled in me to keep up good relations with all I was taking in all the toxins. It is a threshold in life where one has to decide if we can overlook such negative people and yet move on with them or if our personalities cannot walk through them we need to leave them at one point.. It will take me a 360 degree turn in my personality to turn off from such people, it is now more a medication for my mental health whether it is a perceived as arrogance or attitude or aloofness.....

One another such relationship that I held on was a childhood friend and I should have taken a hint from the very approach that if its giving me a feel of worthlessness why on earth would any such person be important to me???? It is often a self created mental injury where you go with a platter of Emotional weapons and invite them to assault you with their silent violence.....

Its all about taking a responsibility of self... NO ONE EXCEPT WE ARE ENTITLED TO SELF CARE.. Its waste blaming people and circumstances, its time to MAKE A CHOICE.... with an EQ so poor, for people like me it takes their whole life to take stand but  BETTER LATE THAN NEVER, whatever few years we have to live, lets not live in regret that you didn't take care of your self dignity.... I still don't have ego to accept that few people are close to my heart but I need to give myself the due respect rather than expecting it from those who would only walk over calmly into their comfort zones...
Either ways, being easy is not to allow people to TAKE YOU FOR A RIDE, its about EASILY side tracking too all those who cause us discomfort....

Take care...