We are all GIVERS and TAKERS....
Ideally a person with generous heart wouldn't want to take as much as give but that again is pertaining to material things... I am here to talk about only EMOTIONAL Gives and Takes....
Ideally a person with generous heart wouldn't want to take as much as give but that again is pertaining to material things... I am here to talk about only EMOTIONAL Gives and Takes....
I meet many people on regular basis where they complain of being into an emotionally abusive relationship and which leaves them shattered... They again gather up, show up and are left to break down due to their emotions being exploited.
It's great to LOVE people.... The most pure, beautiful and amazing feeling in this life is to be in LOVE... people when in love often take it as a venture into a world that will bring only wonders to them... Well, its not completely true... Its wonderful feeling with an adventurous route... The adventures are felt when there is a turbulence in this so called EMOTIONAL LEVEL.....
Love has many dimensions and definitions, it is not only limited to two people.. It is that which generally exists between humans and living beings...
Which factor gives rise to this love is again very complex as it could be anything from hormones to habits to a cosmic pull to loneliness etc...
Which factor gives rise to this love is again very complex as it could be anything from hormones to habits to a cosmic pull to loneliness etc...
I often find either of the one in this love bond, be it parent child, two friends, lovers, etc getting a feel of being victim to the other exploiting them for their emotions... WHY DO PEOPLE FEEL THEY HAVEN'T GOT ENOUGH FOR HOW MUCH THEY GAVE AWAY EMOTIONALLY??????
This is a very sensitive issue, disturbing a huge population and the feeling of being MIS USED/ABUSED in a relationship is often devastating.... It took me long to understand this....
When people love someone, they are dwelling into their emotions so deeply that they actually feel that they have given a precious part of theirs into the relationship which is TRUE, the only problem is we are not able to LET GO of that part which is given away in love.... When I say we couldn't LET GO meaning, there's a realization that 'I have loved him/her sooo much where I gave away my time, money, body, etc into that relationship'... This thought, if it persists then you haven't loved to give... You have loved to TAKE too.... And if u have kept a count of how much you have given... You are expecting that much in return.....
Love, being intangible can never be measured and this way one of the individuals in such relationships often feel being mis used...
A DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE..... If people find you lovable and if we can help them with whatever we are comfortable with... Say time, money etc and if that is considered as a form of love being showered without the feel of being taken undue advantage of.... This is the feeling of being of some genuine USE..... but if all help rendered was with a desire to get something back worth the same value will ONLY MAKE ONE FEEL... BEING MIS USED or ABUSED...
It is human to expect back but understanding that this very expectation into an intangible give away is only going to distress us...
It is therefore, a regular practice to understand the depth of this beautiful feeling called love...
LOVE to feel good for giving as much as you can as you are doing that for you have more love in abundance to give it away....
Do not measure love... Just love.... Forget it once shared... Its all in here... You will experience it in yourself....
But...
If.. Its not in our personalities to forget it once showered... Be cautious... As this can get us to the mode of feeling exploited and misused....
Take care