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Tuesday, September 27, 2016

Use FUL... not.. Use FOOL..

We are all GIVERS and  TAKERS....
Ideally a person with generous heart wouldn't  want to take as much as give but that again is pertaining to material  things... I am here to talk about only  EMOTIONAL  Gives and Takes....
I meet many people on regular basis where they complain of being into an emotionally abusive relationship and which leaves them shattered... They again  gather up, show up and are left to break down due to their emotions being  exploited.
It's  great to LOVE people.... The most pure, beautiful and amazing  feeling in this life is to be in LOVE... people when in love often take it as a venture into a world that will bring only wonders to them... Well, its not completely true... Its wonderful  feeling with an adventurous route... The adventures are felt when there is a turbulence in this  so called  EMOTIONAL LEVEL.....
Love has many dimensions and definitions, it is not only limited to two people.. It is that which generally exists between humans and living  beings...
Which factor gives rise to this love is again very  complex  as it could be anything  from hormones to habits to a cosmic pull  to loneliness etc...
I often  find either of the one in this love bond, be it parent  child, two friends, lovers, etc getting a feel of  being  victim to  the other exploiting them for their  emotions... WHY DO PEOPLE FEEL THEY HAVEN'T  GOT ENOUGH  FOR HOW MUCH THEY GAVE AWAY EMOTIONALLY??????
This is a very sensitive issue, disturbing a huge population and the feeling of being MIS USED/ABUSED  in a relationship  is often devastating.... It took me long to understand  this....
When people love someone, they are dwelling into their emotions so deeply that they actually feel that they have given  a precious part of theirs into the relationship which is TRUE,  the only problem is we are not able to LET GO of that part which is given away in love.... When I  say we couldn't  LET GO  meaning, there's a realization  that 'I have loved him/her  sooo much where I gave away my time, money, body, etc into that relationship'... This thought, if it persists then you haven't  loved to give... You have loved to  TAKE too.... And if u have kept a count  of how much you have given... You are expecting that  much in return.....
Love, being  intangible  can never be measured and this way one of the individuals in such relationships often  feel being  mis used...
A DIFFERENT  PERSPECTIVE..... If people  find you lovable and if we can help  them with whatever we are comfortable with... Say  time, money etc and if that is considered as a form  of love being showered  without the feel of being taken  undue advantage of.... This is the feeling of being of some  genuine USE..... but if  all help rendered was with a desire to get something  back worth the same value will  ONLY MAKE ONE FEEL... BEING MIS USED or ABUSED...
It is human to expect back but understanding that this very expectation into an intangible  give away is only going to distress  us...
It is therefore, a regular  practice to understand the depth of this beautiful feeling  called  love...
LOVE to feel good for giving as much as you  can as you are  doing that for you have more love in abundance to give it away....
Do not measure  love... Just love.... Forget  it once shared... Its all in here... You will  experience it in yourself....
But...
If.. Its not in our personalities to forget it once showered... Be cautious... As this  can get us to the mode of feeling  exploited and misused....
Take care