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Tuesday, November 8, 2016

Benefit of Doubt.... Helps at times

BENEFIT OF DOUBT.... means: "I did not assume he was a liar." It means: "I don't believe the story, but I will consider that maybe it really did happen." To give someone the benefit of the doubt means you assume that he or she is telling the truth until proven otherwise.
I wasn't  judgemental ever.... I  probably  was like that initially because I  was a victim of LOW SELF ESTEEM... it proved advantageous at least in developing this trait in me... Except that LOW SELF ESTEEM is a curse... It thus became a habit since then.... Now, when I  do have enough SELF CONFIDENCE, I  still stick on with my NON JUDGEMENTAL  traits....
Which means.. It is easier to give BENEFIT OF DOUBT... As per the above definition, we do need to essentially give benefit of doubts to people at least a couple of times till we are convinced of their  particular  folly. It is MOST  IMPORTANT quality  needed in my profession  but also as normal human beings we can immensely see its positives if we adopt this trait.
The big problem with people who fail in giving benefit of doubt  is that they have FIXED IDEAS... about many aspects of life... My dear people... LIFE itself is CONSTANTLY changing  how can our fixed ideas help us.... Like a personality, our ideas are also victims of NURTURUING AND ENVIRONMENT  we are within... It is not often under our control to change the set conditions we are dropped into but..... A VERY AWARENESS that we can adopt new ideas, help us come out of blocks  and see new perspective. IT CAN HELP US CHANGE... OUR ATTITUDE...
Humans are slaves to Habit... Be it food, clothing, living, talking and.... Worst..THINKING.... we cannot step out of our comfort zones as we ourselves wouldn't  accept our CHANGED FORM... this limitation is many a times  root cause for many personal and interpersonal  problems....
The very reason, BENEFIT OF DOUBT helps us is.. To step into others UNREVEALED softer/weaker aspect and and Increased level of UNDERSTANDING  of our own capacities to value people and their limitations.....
People with GOOD TRAITS are very easily accepted and respected in society... We seldom  want to even know their negative traits... (good enough)  but, the repressed segment of society are often those who are CONTINUOUSLY JUDGED AND CONDEMNED.... Crimes are unfortunately their share of conduct and we want CRIMES to end... HOW????
At an individual  level, at  micro level, can we  not try and figure out SOME  GOOD, AMAZING, RARE, traits  in PEOPLE who are victims of JUDGEMENTS and gradually evoke a human  trait if we START USING  BENEFIT OF DOUBT and not hold people CULPRITS for  their  xyz actions.. At Least ... couple of times....
Benefit of doubt  according to me is a SENSITIVE  quality in comparison to being JUDGEMENTAL which is quite an insensitive aspect where we subconsciously have framed anyone and everyone  who do not match your thoughts as WRONG....
RIGHTS AND WRONGS are man made.... Compassion and Sensitivity are DIVINE  Human  Qualities which we need to preserve... Lets give it a good try...